Staying with the same woman

Niksik · January 25, 2009, 4:44am

If you love someone enough, you should have no problems chaneling your hormones in that direction. But love comes from respect and committment. If respect is missing, everything ends up in a mess

Das_Reich · January 25, 2009, 4:44am

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yes so whats the big deal
just because i dont find a woman attractive dosent mean i have to be rude to her

why ?

Das_Reich · January 25, 2009, 4:46am

i respect a lot of women too but i wud rather sleep with a man than with them …
sexual attraction and respect are 2 different things in my humble opinion

Niksik · January 25, 2009, 4:51am

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But in a marriage, they go hand in hand. maybe you had one bad experience, it doesn't mean all will be bad.

Straight_up · January 25, 2009, 4:51am

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You should have asked this question when you were first getting married. You got married and it ended. You are now seeking another woman to be your wife. And the barrier to your decision making is "even a good looking woman will look ordinary after a few days" so how to deal with that??????????????????

Seeking a second wife and this is your main concern? First marriage of a year didn't tell you what marriage is about and where your priorities should lie then I guess nothing will. :)

Spock · January 25, 2009, 4:52am

No but its not about that. Marriage is more than that. You missed the key word in that post, 'rely'. The trust, reliance, care, patience, everything grows. Marriage just isnt a man made concept, its heavenly and is there for a reason. Its not just about physical attraction, otherwise this concept wouldn't be innate.

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i was married for a year but it ended in divorce
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Sorry to hear that bro, but dont lose hope my friend. Learn from your, or your ex's mistakes and give it another shot, and use your wisdom to make it work. All the best!

Das_Reich · January 25, 2009, 4:53am

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^okay how do you develop that , i mean what keeps your interest after a few weeks

Das_Reich · January 25, 2009, 4:55am

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Sorry to hear that bro, but dont lose hope my friend. Learn from your, or your ex's mistakes and give it another shot, and use your wisdom to make it work. All the best!
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i appreciate the kind words
but i was not entirely blamefree either after i found out that she was not very religious nor very appealing .....i was happy to part ways with her
it gives me a second chance

Monk · January 25, 2009, 4:55am

I think exactly same. But then I think the sacrifice she is making staying with me all her life.
You know I am no brad pitt either.

Spock · January 25, 2009, 4:58am

Honestly, I'd let married people answer that question, for they can do a better job than me in explaining that. But let me just ask you this, dont you wish you had someone to take care of you when youre going through the downs of life, are sick, or need someone who you could trust with all your heart.

Das_Reich · January 25, 2009, 4:58am

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^ very true, we are not even kevin bacon let alone brad pitt
but that is based on the assumption that she is not cheating on you

AnGeL_EyEs · January 25, 2009, 5:01am

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Das Reich,

If you love the woman whole heartedly. She will be more then enough for you..physically, emotionally and mentally. If you love her....she will satisfy you in every way that counts. No one else will compare to her.

Sure you may come across women that are better looking... but because of your love for your wife...you will not want them the way you want your wife.

anyway...what do i know...just my thoughts lol

choti_jaan · January 25, 2009, 5:01am

Look, D.R., With every divorce you DESTROY A GIRL'S LIFE!!! Unfortunalty in our society, we blame the poor girls for EVERYTHING, even when we know SEX OBSESSED PPL like you exist. Not only do you destroy a girl's life, but you also make it harder for her sisters to marry, cuz it puts an unfair shadow on them.

SO PLEASE, BEFORE YOU MARRY, PLEASE TELL THE GIRL'S FAMILY, the SERIOUS ISSUE YOU HAVE- and what you really are, so that another girl's life is not destroyed!

Das_Reich · January 25, 2009, 5:02am

how can u trust someone for so many things in ur life
i trust God when i am confused and depressed
and my brothers for other smaller things i only trust them with all my heart]
i can take care of myself i eat simple food, wear simple clothes and live in a simple apartment which i can maintain myself i dont need a woman for that ...

glamorous · January 25, 2009, 5:03am

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i think about da same thing
wut if my husband
gets tired of me

Das_Reich · January 25, 2009, 5:03am

we also have dajjal sifat aurteen like you who are misleading the women of our society they are a much bigger evil

Lusi · January 25, 2009, 5:04am

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so all you need a woman is for sex?

I know this is not the nicest question..so anyway for how long are you going to rely on your bro, what will you do when gets busy in his life, wife, kids?

AnGeL_EyEs · January 25, 2009, 5:05am

dont think like that....ask yourself what if you get tired of your husband :D

Monk · January 25, 2009, 5:06am

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on second thought you can always use option of 4 wives.

choti_jaan · January 25, 2009, 5:07am

I know it's hard to hear, but unfortunatly it IS true, so before you proceed to you second marriage, make sure your problem is COMPLETELY solved - or you will destroy another poor girl's life.