He asked for a Married Guy’s opinion. Some great points raised here but most seem to be from unmarried teenagers with a very rosy take on life. Realistically this is how you stay with ‘the same woman all your life’. The initial attraction is simply lust in disguise – granted it’s sprinkled with a lot of other stuff on top (some call it love). This attraction will only last the first couple of years when you will have eyes for no one but her. This phase will surely pass and here is how I’ve managed to stay sincere so far: • I am so damn busy that after a full day of work, I don’t have the energy to look at myself let alone anyone else. • If you’ve both managed to pop out a couple of pesky kids in the first couple of years, rest assured that there is no rest. So forget the wandering eye – you’d be grateful for some shut eye. • I’ve got friends who’ve strayed and their horror stories keep me grounded. The mistress turned psycho ***** is a common theme. • If it’s just sex you want, you’ll get it from your wife and I know I speak for every married guy here when I say that after a few minutes with you wife to release that tension – you won’t be thinking about that hot blonde secretary but the damn stuff that you’d have to do at work tomorrow. Hate those f* 7 AM meetings.
So that was a reality check for women out there. What you call commitment is a mixture of all of the above – Oh – and most importantly its fear – the fear that if I ever try to stick it somewhere else - the wife will take my pesky lill angels and head for her moms place. I’m not a gambler – can’t take that kind of a risk. As Gandhi once said – the choice is yours – peace of mind or piece of ass.
Very honest and truthful! Also there is fear of God!