Sara, Stork's post actually depressed me. Are men really that jaded? Are there no men who are truly in love with their wives forever? Is it primarily work and other distractions that keep them from cheating? Is the motivation for staying together really the fear of loosing their partner instead of the joy that they receive from staying together?
I soooooooo felt the same way as you Collide when I read Storks post a couple of days ago. This is one of the reasons that I no longer believe in the romantic notion of "true love." Sad isn't it? And the idea of sleeping with your wife (not because you have romantic feelings/or an attraction toward her) but so that you can "get over" "divert yourself" from the thoughts of the hot blond secretary, or Angelina Jolie, or the younger better looking model.....is depressing. Sure, it's better than a husband commiting adultery and actually sleeping with the hot secretary or the younger better looking woman. I've recently read that men (several years into their marriage) tend to fantasize about other women in their heads while being intimate with their wives. And I found that really depressing as well because it makes the wife seem more like an object or vehicle really. And it's not like most husbands would confess to it if asked. Yikes!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It seems as if all the difference in the world really boils down to whether a married has a strong enough conscience not to go astray....or if he's too weak and gives into his lower desires. And yes, I do realize that women are not perfect either and that even married women have succombed to temptation.
A friend of mine once said that because men are not monogamous by nature, that is why they are allowed 4 wives provided that the wives are treated equally.