Re: Staying together just for the sake of the kids..
The key word here is Halal. Divorce IS halal…na pasand does not mean haram. No one is happy to see a home break…but no one is happy in an unhappy home either. When He says Halal…He gives us the RIGHT to be happy and live our lives in sukoon.
Divorce is NOT being a coward KKF. Itni bari baat kehne pehle insaan ko das dafa sochna chahiye hai kyun ke humein nahin pata ke Allah swt humein kab aisi azmaish mein daldein. KOI bhi itna bara qadam khushi se nahin uthata hai…Allah ki narazgi, duniya ke tanay, logon ki buri nazrein, maan baap ka dil dukhana, ghar bigarna, court cases, custody battles, etc. Kaunsi duniya mein ye sab asaan hai jo aap kehrahe ho ke divorce is the easy way out? You think after a divorce people sit home happily thinking “yay, I don’t have to deal with that loser face again”? No…its not that easy unfortunately. You don’t get to just walk away.
Itna bara bol nahin boltay.
Of course families should stay together…again…there will never be a day when breaking a home up will be a good thing. Never.
But you have to keep in mind that fighting and getting abusive in front of your children does more harm than good. If a man treats his wife badly do you think its a good example to set in front of his daughters or his sons? If a woman treats his man badly, what kind of an example does that set for the children?
Is it right for little girls to see their mothers being treated badly? Is it right them to grow up thinking its okay for a man to be mean to them? Furthermore, is it right to teach this to our sons? To show them its acceptable to behave badly with women? You think abusive people just pop out of their mothers’ tummies that way? No, they see this in their homes.
I know a guy…he has a daughter who is about 7 years old. He is divorced…joint custody. He knows what divorce does to kids but that doesn’t stop him from being a good father. He wants to give her so much love that she grows up knowing and feeling it but he won’t subject her to a bad marriage between mom and dad.
Staying together for the sake of the kids can be a good thing and a bad thing. It varies from case to case. Sometimes its better to be together and sometimes its not.