Clearly such dbags exist, that's why she encountered this particular family.
I've pretty much only looked online, cuz there are no real life venues here to meet people, and I'm new to this city. Online, maybe, is a different subset of Pakistanis, but there is a LOT of crazy men on there. Dudes who are like 40 and running gas stations and looking to find a 20 yr old wife. Sickos.
I wish I could make a template of the guys that I've gotten "interests" from and you'd see. It's pretty sad. One website just makes me cry, cuz all the guys on there look like criminals. shudders Muslima dot com? Awful.
Just an example, today on one of the websites, a guy shows interest in me - his profile says 39, and under marital status "in process of divorce".
I think so too. I think a lot of normal guys dont even get on there cuz they get enough game in real life they dont need to be on there.
But I have a busy schedule dude. I'm connected by the internet easily, but for me to physically make time and go out - really really hard. And there are no organizations around here where guys go to, at least, not that I know of.
PCD- try importing a guy from Pak. Some decent yet educated type. A 22 yr old friend got married to one. Her benefit was that she got a decent Muslim guy who enrolled in a Masters programme here. His benefit- he got a simple wife and access into a wonderful city.
Yeah. He gets access. What do I get? A dude with confuddled English whose mom is still living in the 8th Century and wants me to quit my job and pop babiiiiesssss.
Little does she know I will get pregnant in like 1 month.
Yeah. He gets access. What do I get? A dude with confuddled English whose mom is still living in the 8th Century and wants me to quit my job and pop babiiiiesssss.
Little does she know I will get pregnant in like 1 month.
There are liberal families in Pakistan as well lol. Plenty of them speak English well enough, especially if their kids studied abroad.
I agree with her (PCG) on one point, being single doesn't necessarily mean that you are living a lonely, unfulfilled life and have nothing to look forward to. I think it's this sort of mentality which depresses single folks, especially women. For one reason or another, not everyone gets married, that doesn't mean life is over for them, or they aren't productive members of society, or they don't have a life. Similarly, not everyone who is married is living an ideal or blissful life. So you have to look at both sides of the coin. You cannot just say that oh, such and such lady didn't get married, and she is so miserable and lonely now. So many married ladies are far miserable, and yet we don't see people preaching against marriage:)
Marriage is not an end unto itself, it's just means of living a happy life, as we all seek companionship. So it shouldn't be the sole ambition of one's life, the way some people make it out to be.
Cuz for a woman to live out there alone, our society actually isolates such women. You think I'm joking? I'm not. There are couples that I've met here where the wife openly says she refuses to invite any single girls to any events she throws because where is a single woman's place amongst married couples - that the girl will likely try stealing one of the husbands. I kid you not. Naturally, she's a moron, and she obviously married a similar moron, the two of them have a history they like to hide of jail cells, drugs, gambling, and gangs. (yeah, she was in a gang). Now wears a dupatta on her head, says hai hai to everything, including a single woman at her dinner table, cuz GOD FORBID someone wants the chapta she ended up marrying.
shakes head There are, I kid you not, a bunch of my old married friends that don't even keep in touch with me anymore, mainly cuz their social circle now involves married women and kids.
I don't necessarily agree with staying single out of choice. Eventually, even if it's a fleeting thought... the girl/woman will wish she had the home, husband, and kids.
But I definitely agree with PCG. I've been told to my face by guys who are born and brought up in the US and highly educated (grad school, doctorate degrees) that a girl is undesirable once she's crossed 25. I was shocked. I use to hear 27 or 28. Now, the guys say 25. And then they add, "20-23 is preferable for most guys." Say there is a girl who is 26/27, who looks 23, is educated and has all those qualities that are desired in a wife (she cooks, clean, is respectful, prays, etc.)... I've seen guys around the same age as her overlook that girl and marry the 20 year old who might be pretty but looks so much older and isn't the least bit domesticated. What happens to the 26 year old?- She ages and her number of rishtas decrease or go on to consist of guys who are divorced/have kids.
Yeah, some girls need to lighten up their requirements. But people fail to realize that it goes both ways. Guys need to realize that their desire for a hot 21 year old is contributing to the increasing population of unmarried girls who still, to this day- are treated like a stigma. That's a fact.
The few guys I knew growing up all decided to marry non-desi women. I think they were sick and tired of the desi culture, and they never really gave desi ladies a chance apart from the ones that were in the face, gossipy, flashy shalwar kameez types.
Yeah, I dont see why a girl HAS TO BE less then 25 in age. That's SAD. Even guys on this website make those kinds of comments, that they're looking for someone 20-25. I mean, really? That's silly if you're in you're 30's.
yo girls outright reject anyone who is less educated, earns less n whatnot............ why can't the men have a preference for who they chose to marry?
At 24 there are times when I have accepted that I may be single forever. It’s not a choice but that’s how I feel. I don’t want to get married for the sake of it. I used to be the girl dreaming about a huge wedding etc etc but that’s all gone out the window now. If I don’t get married then I guess it wasn’t meant to be but I do recognize the difficulties associated with being a single unmarried girl, no matter how independent you are.
yo girls outright reject anyone who is less educated, earns less n whatnot............ why can't the men have a preference for who they chose to marry?
most men do have a choice too... it goes both ways.