Re: Staying in a volatile marriage…divorce rate going up
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Why are you focused only on desi women? Desi men don’t file for divorces?
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Society as a whole has changed. There is a new generation of desis (men AND women) who were born/raised in the western countries who are now in their 20’s/30’s and do not view divorce the same way our parents/grandparents generation viewed it back in Pakistan/India etc. Being divorced today doesn’t carry the same stigma as it did 50 years ago. Many women today are also educated and capable of financially supporting themselves.
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What’s “extreme” is subjective. Many desis get divorced today b/c they’re unhappy. Even if there is not abuse/cheating etc. going on…many get divorced b/c they realized after marriage that they’re not compatible, their own values/future plans don’t match that of their spouse, there are too many arguments in the home, drama with in-laws whatever. Decades ago people stayed married b/c they felt they HAD to. They did not want to feel like an outlaw in the community and for many women, lack of education/job opportunity meant they were 100% dependent on the husband for money. You may not have a problem spending the next 40 years of your life sharing a bed with a spouse who you don’t love or feel attracted to…but that doesn’t mean other women (and men) feel that same way. There are people out there who want a spouse that actually makes them happy…who they actually want to spend time with and grow old with. Due to society’s view changing and women having more options…many out there don’t feel the need to spend life in a unhappy marriage.