I think women are the most beautiful thing in the world and I find them not less attractive than a flower but the sad truth is women don’t act like a flower.
A thing which I call a pure woman trust me no man would ever hurt her in anyway. But what a man is supposed to do when she’s not acting like a woman?
The main cause of any sort of marriage related problems I believe is less woman-ism in a woman.
You see the problem is in the basics. Let the man be the man and you stay a woman it’s more attractive and working trust me.
Chances are girl would have an affair where if the guy is nice he’d just play with her from the outside and if the guy’s a player he’d take her most important thing.
What happens after that?
The girl becomes a woman yet single. Now she isolates herself, thinks and develop some ideologies in her heart. All those ideologies carry with her til the day she eventually gets married.
Now what happens after that?
She acts differently then she should be acting with her husband. She gave something in the past now she expects to take things from his husband because she thinks that’s the right way, shes demanding, controlling, argumentative etc.
I believe the natural ideal flow of married relationships is;
Men want to have things first then give things back. And it includes everything really, love, respect, care etc. But in real life women want to have things first and then give something back.
Technically speaking a man is not feeling good about the marriage neither the woman because both are expecting at the same time.
This causes confusion, arguments, dissatisfaction, verbal abuse and worse.
I feel extremely sad for all those women who encounter abuse, cheating and other problems in their married life. But just try to imagine one simple thing. Can anything bad happen to a person who isn’t bad, wasn’t bad? Allah says no it won’t happen.
But you’ve many examples where bad things happen to good women, the reason is nobody likes to go back and digg the past.
Tiny little things and details make a man graceful and tiny little things and details make a woman lady.