Have seen some men afflicted with this. The wife who has been brought from Pakistan who was supposed to be the homemaker, but she hardly makes anything at home. She spent her life in Pakistan pampered by her mother who thought her girl will spend the rest of her life working in her husbands house, like she did, so she did not want her to work in Mama, Papa’s house. So she hasn’t learnt any chores nor is interested in.
She spends gets up at 12 oclock, then logs on to facebook, GS, online khawateen digest till her husband is back from work. Before her arrival she is ready to go out with him and eat out. If at all she gets out of her room and do something, she’ll be complaining to her husband how his mom criticised her cooking or cleaning.
Have seen some men afflicted with this. The wife who has been brought from Pakistan who was supposed to be the homemaker, but she hardly makes anything at home. She spent her life in Pakistan pampered by her mother who thought her girl will spend the rest of her life working in her husbands house, like she did, so she did not want her to work in Mama, Papa's house. So she hasn't learnt any chores nor is interested in.
She spends gets up at 12 oclock, then logs on to facebook, GS, online khawateen digest till her husband is back from work. Before her arrival she is ready to go out with him and eat out. If at all she gets out of her room and do something, she'll be complaining to her husband how his mom criticised her cooking or cleaning.
haha reality buddy i know dozens of such ladies.. oh by the way GS is full of such just look the timings of posting in life1 & wedding forum after 11AM it rocks.. !
Women posting at 11 am are useless creatures.Yup...!!
What about men who have so much free time to think up such topics and follow all threads of the so-called useless SAH-women,and then discuss them on an online forum...????...
lol this is very true in some cases. People bring a dulhan from pakistan with the expectation that she will do our khidmat like no other girl born/raised in the west can. But it actually backfires in some cases, when the bahu turns out to be a good for nothing nakhrelo type.
In a relative's susraal, the MIL has a strong tendency to favour pakistani girls over amreekis.
Among her 3 bahus:
1) First bahu - came to america after marriage and strictly believes in serving the husband/in-laws from day to night. And on any given day, she makes 2-3 dishes because everyone in the family wants something different and her sense of accomplishment comes from spoiling everyone around her. Her husband cannot find a bowl and spoon in the kitchen when she isn't home.
2) Second bahu - came to america after marriage. Has their own place. Her husband is very well off financially. I have never seen her do much house work (they have a weekly gardener/maid). Her husband makes BBQ when they invite guests over...or they get food catered. Her MIL doesn't like this bahu's cooking which she does occasionally, but MIL can't say anything to her because her husband can't hear anything against wifey and mommy dearest needs the son on her side for $$$. The couple wasn't always this rich...but even in earlier years of their marriage, she was one of the bahu's being described here by OP. In fact, they are 6 or 7 sisters ... all of them are like this ... gorgeous, lazy, married rich american nationals, have husband in their muthi)
3) Third bahu - in Pakistan. Her husband isn't an american national, nor is he that well off. She actually let go of the maids in the house because she feels she will gain weight without the "exercise" of daily chores. She loves cooking and house keeping...but she has to do it only for herself and husband (aur saal main ek dafa, when MIL/FIL or the other families visit Pakistan during vacation time...and she hires extra help during this time).
So, really, it depends hugely on the person you marry...partly on their upbringing and partly their own personality/values. It's up to you to find out beforehand what you're getting yourself into.
Haha iconoclast, You have a point. the lifestyles are different and some new arrivals have never really had to do all the stuff. i see it in newly imported wives and husbands as well as new arrivals who come over as students or professionals.
I also know several guys who live a bachelor life in summer because the wife heads over to Pakistan with kids for a break because over there with cook and maid etc, its a summer of pampering.
Certain ladies did that twice a year before they had kids.
I have had to serve as a peacemaker for one couple, where the dude was pissed off that he could not spend time with his kids during summer.
I never get any chance to do all the aiyashi...if one day I decide to take time off I have to do extra the next day. I think it applies to women with no kids and no inlaws.
I think that in laws believe that if they get a girl from paki, she will be oh so grateful and be their maid for life.
My Hubby's middle brother got married to a girl born and raised over here and then later told his family about the shaadi. He isn't very educated and neither was she at the time. The family got upset but BIL never wanted to live with his parents anyways and didn't care much. He does what he likes.
Hence, MIL and FIL got scared and got hubby's oldest brother married to someone from paki… they thought that a paki girl will be willing to live with them and take care of them completely. Turns out, oldest bhabhi is the nakhrelo type… she gets up at noon and eats breakfast at that time… cooks around 2 and never ever takes care of her kids. On the other hand, the middle bro's wife takes care of everything!!! Like she got her education, takes care of the kids, the house, cooking, cleaning, and works. She is wonder woman!
Hence, hubby's parents asked him to pick a "Amreeki" girl to marry. Even though I was born in Paki, I was raised here. But ya.. hubby liked me and in laws agreed. I stayed with inlaws for a year and a half. I am a student but I cooked and cleaned everything daily before 10am when I was staying there. I would vacuum once a week. I also did laundry for everyone including MIL, SIL, FIL, their kids, etc. I helped clean SILs and her kid's room on a monthly basis. I was the only one who would clean the garage. I would iron MIL, FIL, and BIL's clothes. Also, I babysat their kids daily while SIL was on FB or sleeping or going out with her hubby.
hence, I think it depends on the girl and not what nationality she is from or even how much she is pampered as a kid. I was a spoiled brat who never did laundry in my life before I got married… mom's house had a chef, a maid, a gardener, etc. Hence, I never learned anything before marriage. Neither did the middle bhabhi but we both adjusted and tried. However. oldest bhabhi wasn't pampered before but is just plain lazy.
A lot of wealthy people in Pakistan including some middle class families have maids and cooks so the females hardly do any work. They expected to be pampered by their husbands after marriage, and to be kept in a style that they have become acustomed to.
