[Split Thread] The Joint Family System

[Princess1983]

Re: [Split Thread] The Joint Family System

@Deeba1234

I find this so strange..

Before marriage most parents are so paranoid about their daughters spending a single night away from home but they don’t seem to care about where she’ll be living after marriage (or are too embarrassed to ask or scared the daughter will be rejected?)..

What jobs the boy’s uncles and aunts do or which village his grandparents come from is ok to talk about but not future living arrangements

I find it strange and quite scary to be honest. I think it’s important for a family to ask their child about what how they wish to move their relationship forward e.g. will they wish to work after marriage, will they wish to live in a joint family set up etc etc. However as I mentioned I’m aware of families that didn’t mention these vital subjects and yet it was because of fear of their daughter being rejected for being too ‘picky’.

I find it even stranger when people are able to decide if a relationship is compatable based on: caste, where the family originally came from and what the boys dad does for a living. That’s a different thread though if you want to start it Deeba!