Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
Damn it. And I thought I could find my soul mate on GS sigh Back to naseeb it is......
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
Tbh, gold digging as a negative trait is a western concept. In Pakistan the rishtay wali auntiees feel no qualms about disucssing material wealth, and men pretty much advertise themselves as financially stable, good job what not.
Re: Sooo…why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
Because both those things lead to huge personal failures. Everyday life isn’t about either one of those things. (After taking care of genuine likeness and some physical attractiveness and comfortable financial situation.)
I wouldn’t marry a guy who’s marrying me largely for my looks. I wouldn’t marry one who doesn’t find me physically attractive either.
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
I think the below example explains the situation well..appreciating vs depreciating assets :)
This post appeared on Craigslist as a classic that hit the frontpage of thousands of websites worldwide. Apparently, a supposedly beautiful 25-year-old woman was trying her luck on Craigslist...
The question:
What am I doing wrong?
Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy.
I'm not from New York . I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.
Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms
-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings
-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?
Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there?
Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY
Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.
The Response:
I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity!in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!
So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold "hence the rub"marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.
Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful"
as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.
By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.
With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way.
Classic "pump and dump."
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
Well to those men who only care for looks and those girls who only care about money. Those two types should get together. The other normal people lets mingle, lol.
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
.. ohh god! yeh toh meri situation haii lol i want to marry a man with tons of money so i dont have to worry about working !!
.. i have already told my mom that find a guy who will keep him financially happy lol
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
Basically if she has no problem saying she is up for sale that's a fair deal in materialistic way.
Marriage without spiritual connecton and care/love is not a marriage........
......It is business as usual.
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
Basically if she has no problem saying she is up for sale that's a fair deal in materialistic way.
Marriage without spiritual connecton and care/love is not a marriage........
......It is business as usual.
But to assume that marriage is ONLY love and spiritual connection is wrong too. Marriage is also a business contract in which you're signing a legal document
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
But to assume that marriage is ONLY love and spiritual connection is wrong too. Marriage is also a business contract in which you're signing a legal document
In reality, marriage does not require legal documentaton to be called marriage.
Legal papers/processes are used these days to provide satisfactions to parties involved. That's all.
Spiritual connection/love/sacrifice and care are essential ingredents of marital relation. Without legal contract marriage can survive if these are present. :)
If 'marriage' stays because of legal contract then it is business accord, not marriage.
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
I would argue the opposite: in an ideal world a marriage wouldn't require a contract but in the real world, there is always a contract involved. Nowadays it is a legal document and back in the day it was for alliances or political reasons.
I'm not saying which is the core of a marriage, love or contract, I'm saying marriage is both. I agree with you that people can be married without a contract, which is what a lot of unmarried couples in the West say (I realize this is not Islamic so let's not bring that up). Anyways, this is off topic.
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
I would argue the opposite: in an ideal world a marriage wouldn't require a contract but in the real world, there is always a contract involved. Nowadays it is a legal document and back in the day it was for alliances or political reasons.
I'm not saying which is the core of a marriage, love or contract, I'm saying marriage is both. I agree with you that people can be married without a contract, which is what a lot of unmarried couples in the West say (I realize this is not Islamic so let's not bring that up). Anyways, this is off topic.
I think my post was very clear. I did not undermine the importance of a contract.
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
Marriage it self is a corrupt institution.
Re: Sooo...why is being a gold digger such a bad thing?
Marriage it self is a corrupt institution.
Yes, for the corrupted minds, it would not be a surprising thought.
Multinick? or let's see. ;)