If men can marry for beauty…then why cant women be equally materialistic and marry for money?
I see men wanting a hot girl but why would a hot girl settle for mediocrity? She knows she’s hot…so settling with an average joe…makes no sense. Might as well go for the gold.
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I totally agree.. aren't looks as superficial as money? In fact more so... You can do lots of constructive things with money which you can't with looks!!!
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Seriously, women are so afraid of even mentioning money for fear of being labeled a "gold digger".
Men are constantly trying to measure women according to how much money they believe a woman is worth.
So why cant a woman go for a guy she believes will give her the life she wants? And what is so immoral about it?
If a guy demands a hot body, good looks, etc. its normal and okay. If a woman wants money, its not.
I dont think so.
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hmmm Reha I agree with you completely !
Lately I have seen very average looking girls too asking for huge Haq Mehar saying that this is the only place where the groom gives something to the bride. Most women I have known are not afraid any more.
So atleast as per my knowledge young girls like in teens and early 20's are very vocal about what they want and they won't settle for something mediocre.
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This is all time wasting superficial talk thats being taken way too seriously, which is more pathetic.
How many guys end up getting their Angelina Jolie or Adriana Lima lookalikes? How many girls end up marrying rich business tycoons? I personally believe in your youth, be it male/female, you go through a phase where these superficial qualities hold significant importance, with age and bit of life experience, they start to put things into perspective and think according to the reality. Having said that, I for one don't label woman a gold digger if all she's asking for a guy who earns enough to lead a safe middle class lifestyle or a guy a wanker, if he wants a girl thats pleasing to 'his' eyes.
The concepts are getting quite abused and exaggerated.
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As a man, I'd rather be loved for my money than not at all, so yea I support gold diggers.
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Have to agree with (Angelina) Jolie 
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Why is it wrong? Because materialism and perviness aren’t exactly positive traits. A guy wants a girl to whom he’s attracted to? Fair enough. A girl wants a guy with an income to support a decent lifestyle (especially the lifestyle that she’s used to)? Fair enough. Both are somewhat necessary for a happy marriage.
But if the guy will not settle for anything less than a double D and if the girl will not settle for anything less than a millionaire, them two really are miserable individuals.
Also, why is it that only rich men deserve hot women and vice versa? Every woman deserves diamonds (not even gold) as far as she’s concerned!
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Not really. The guy gets to enjoy the double Ds, the girl gets to enjoy LV and Prada.
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Oh they're perfect match for each other but still quite miserable individuals if their definition of a happy marriage is double Ds and Prada. What if the guy goes bankrupt and the girl can't take off that pregnancy weight?
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Excluding few from the bunch (of guys and girls), rest pretty much look for compatible and reasonable match. You can relate requirement of beauty and money mostly to teens
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Agreed on the first part but disagree on the second. There’s plenty of people of all age groups who fall into that category.
And sure nothing wrong with gold diggers who go for men who are only after their bodies. Its a fair trade :k:
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^ Exactly, I dont know why everyone's lambasting rich ppl as well as ppl who are good looking as being characterless all the time. I guess desis love to criticize others on what they dont have.
As for the OP's questions, provided its no Heffner/Harris scenario, it's perfectly fine.
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Not really. The guy gets to enjoy the double Ds, the girl gets to enjoy LV and Prada.
What happens when the double D's sag? And when the poor boy loses his annual bonuses, or worse, gets thrown off Wall Street and the Prada becomes New York Company 16 dollar purses?
(I have nothing against NY Company, in fact, I shop there regularly - superb company).
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^ Question is, how often does that happen? Very rarely, and I am not referring to the double D's but the big shots, i.e. because even in the times of extreme economic crisis, I have seen workers making less than $10 an hour getting axed, but the CEO's and the other crocs making even more. Very rarely do these people fall down. They are smart, that's why they get there on top, and tend to stay there, though there's very few exceptions.
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how many Pakistani CEO's do you know?
Yeah they're there, but fact of the matter is most of the Pakistani immigrants at least in the USA are still aam se aadmi.
They still manage to muster the money to buy something nice for their wives once in a while, evidenced by the bling bling at the masjids - even the burqa wali's sport designer and nothing less (Because that's why we show up to the masjid, to show off our beemers and our pradas). But generally, Pakistani muslims mostly fall into the middle class of America, which currently is being crunched like peanut butter and their money is being squeezed to pay off Wall street screw ups, and as of late, we've taken up stealing from Teachers (cough, Wisconsin) to give back to businesses (tax cuts).
Most Pakistani men are not CEO's. They may be small business owner's, but they're not sitting on piles of money that are that big.
But it's relative. Some of them probably do feel rich, if they originally were from poor families in Pakistan.
I digress. The point is, that if girls think they're going to marry into Prada, you're not getting that with most Pakistani men. Not including the black money that's out there, if you want a halaal income, and to be able to afford big designers as a lifestyle (I'm not talking about, oh I got one designer back in 5 years, because I saved up for it), then Pakistani men in general are not the trees you should be barking up. But somehow, a lot of girls out there have these fantasies that after marriage, they're just going to have a bling lifestyle, and fact is, they end up working their arses off along side their husbands helping them run their small businesses, etc.
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And Pakistani women, conversely, do not have double D’s, unless all their body folds are doubled. 
So, I’m not sure what trees Pakistani boys think they’re barking up, either.
Again, evidence of how delusional we Pakistanis are.
It’s all the fault of bolly movies.
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how many Pakistani CEO's do you know?
Yeah they're there, but fact of the matter is most of the Pakistani immigrants at least in the USA are still aam se aadmi.
They still manage to muster the money to buy something nice for their wives once in a while, evidenced by the bling bling at the masjids - even the burqa wali's sport designer and nothing less (Because that's why we show up to the masjid, to show off our beemers and our pradas). But generally, Pakistani muslims mostly fall into the middle class of America, which currently is being crunched like peanut butter and their money is being squeezed to pay off Wall street screw ups, and as of late, we've taken up stealing from Teachers (cough, Wisconsin) to give back to businesses (tax cuts).
Most Pakistani men are not CEO's. They may be small business owner's, but they're not sitting on piles of money that are that big.
But it's relative. Some of them probably do feel rich, if they originally were from poor families in Pakistan.
I digress. The point is, that if girls think they're going to marry into Prada, you're not getting that with most Pakistani men. Not including the black money that's out there, if you want a halaal income, and to be able to afford big designers as a lifestyle (I'm not talking about, oh I got one designer back in 5 years, because I saved up for it), then Pakistani men in general are not the trees you should be barking up. But somehow, a lot of girls out there have these fantasies that after marriage, they're just going to have a bling lifestyle, and fact is, they end up working their arses off along side their husbands helping them run their small businesses, etc.
Easy there tex, I didnt know this discussion was limited to Pakistanis only, I was talking about 'gold digging' in general, it exists outside the realm of Pakistanis. Yes, most Pakistanis here might not be like that, but the educated ones that went to good schools here and are career oriented (chosen lucrative paths) are easily making 6 figured salaries, which is honestly is pretty good for a luxurious lifestyle.
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To add to an already exhausted topic, why when a girl expects to marry someone who is her equal (values-wise, physical attractiveness-wise and education/professional success-wise), is she called too demanding and unrealistic?
Apparently, she needs to settle for a guy who is less educated/successful/makes less money, is less attractive, because apparently only guys deserve eye-candy, and values-wise - well, the guy's allowed to have had a colourful past and all is forgiven, but woe betide a girl who's been in a prior relationship.
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Most Pakistani men are not CEO's. They may be small business owner's, but they're not sitting on piles of money that are that big.
You could have just said most men aren't CEO's and your point would be valid too.
I digress. The point is, that if girls think they're going to marry into Prada, you're not getting that with most Pakistani men. Not including the black money that's out there, if you want a halaal income, and to be able to afford big designers as a lifestyle (I'm not talking about, oh I got one designer back in 5 years, because I saved up for it), then Pakistani men in general are not the trees you should be barking up.
You're not getting that with most men on this planet. And if the double D's sag or the guy loses his moolah then whatever, they made those calls.
Yes, most Pakistanis here might not be like that, but the educated ones that went to good schools here and are career oriented (chosen lucrative paths) are easily making 6 figured salaries, which is honestly is pretty good for a luxurious lifestyle.
Word.
Why when a girl expects to marry someone who is her equal (values-wise, physical attractiveness-wise and education/professional success-wise), is she called too demanding and unrealistic?
She's not being unrealistic. If she can find someone whose qualities resonate with hers then she should go for it.