Do you think sons are conditioned to be loyal to the family more so than girls?
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By loyality you mean responsibility towards family?
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Yea responsibility but also looking out for the interests of everyone in the family before their own. Also, maintaining ties with family members when things go sour.
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well yeah… As far as loyalty is concerned then one has to be loyal, male or female, no matter what relationship they are in. You have more responsibilities as a male member of the family towards your family esp women, religiously speaking, & if I speak otherwise then different families got different circumstances & they act according to those & whatever works best for them. You give your 100% & what you are responsible for, put your effort & if still there is some sort of difficulty in maintaining ties with your family members from their end then just back off, then again it depends on the relationship.
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Yeah cause girls bail once they’re married.
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Well these days both bail once married to be honest because they want a separate place to live in … so neither girl lives with her family nor the guy… so there is that…
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A son is a son 'til he gets a wife, but a daughter is a daughter all her life is a famous quote and honestly seen this more than anything. Girls visit parents regularly while sons barely talk to them living in the same house.
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The wives say we ain’t loyal lol
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Exactly. I’ve seen this often too.
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Actually, I think the girls’ family bails on her.
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I think it helps them being conditioned to be loyal to their parents considering they aren’t the ones expected to take up an entirely new residence after marriage with a different family to serve. Of course, zamana is changing and now couples prefer a neolocal residence after marriage instead of patrilocal.
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Absolutely! I’ve seen so many joru kay ghulaam sons who’ve abandoned their parents that I’ve lost count. Daughters on the other hand always take care of their parents no matter how hard their own circumstances may be.
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So true.
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And in many circumstances, it is these daughters who have made their husbands joro ka ghulam and created situations where the sons drifted away from their own parents.
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I don’t think so. I’ve seen this time and time again to be completely false. Sons in more traditional families may LIVE with their parents but that’s about all they deign to do. The care, concern, family ties, practical work, etc all falls on the DIL’s who also worry for their OWN parents. I don’t have brothers so my sisters and I will be there for my parents and am fortunate enough to be married to someone who is pretty sweet about it. But my friends who do have brothers are normally the ones checking on their parents. Not the boys. They do their own thing and society accepts their nonchalant and cavalier behavior as “boys will be boys”. In fact, one of my friends recently had to fly in from out of state to care for her aging and sick father while TWO of his sons lived in the same city. She stayed for two months then and another 6 months while her mother was sick. It was pretty unbelievable. I don’t see men doing that. I don’t see boys concern themselves with their parents enough to even make them breakfast in the morning…they dump that on their wives as if its beneath them. Its pretty heartbreaking and sad.
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Nope don’t think so.
It really depends on the person. Sons and daughters can both be loyal and provide for their parents. They both can also be there for their parents and support them in different ways too (ie. help them out emotionally, financially, spend time with them, etc).