I got two girls. The second one came after a long time...completlely unexpected. My MIL my hubby and many people were so convinced it was a boy. I saw from my scan that it was a girl and at first I was shocked because I too thought it would be a boy....but I was secretly so happy and I did not mind whatever as long as the baby was healthy. And everyone knew I knew about the scan results but I told nobody the result. So they guessed from my joy that it would be a boy. Thing is I would have been happy either way. When she was born, for a second, my hubby was disappointed, there was this silence in the delivery room, but then he fell in love with her and now cannot imagine her to have been a boy.
In India, where female feticide is a huge problem, it’s not legal for a doctor to reveal the sex of the unborn child. But I doubt if all doctors there obey this law.
Doctors avoid to tell mothers if its a girl in scan.....no this isn't the case.....doctors avoid to tell the ignorant mothers if its a girl for only to avoid fitnah (some parents decide to abort the baby and some mothers can have complications during birth due to the tension of giving birth to a girl).
Even in the UK they don't tell the women from Pakistani Mirpuri community bcoz of their ignorance (my friend told me that).
I started to cry when I heard that it's gonna be a third boy (As I wanted a girl) but afterwards I realized my mistake and I did taubah.
Doctors avoid to tell mothers if its a girl in scan.....no this isn't the case.....doctors avoid to tell the ignorant mothers if its a girl for only to avoid fitnah (some parents decide to abort the baby and some mothers can have complications during birth due to the tension of giving birth to a girl).
Even in the UK they don't tell the women from Pakistani Mirpuri community bcoz of their ignorance (my friend told me that).
I started to cry when I heard that it's gonna be a third boy (As I wanted a girl) but afterwords I realized my mistake and I did taubah.
After so many years it has dawned on me and now I know the mindset of the doctors too.
This seems to be universal. My two boys were born in CA and in both the cases they told us within minutes that it was a boy. The Third one a girl was born in Chicago and the doctor doing the scan told us that she was not sure about the gender of the baby.
Lo karlo Gal.
It means the secret it out now that if it a boy doctors will share the 'joy' with you and if it is a girl they will not tell you but indirectly are they not hinting or telling you ?
we are 3 sisters and dont have a brother ,MashAllah my parents never felt for a moments that we are burden on them in any way .So It depends . I remember abu telling others a hadees by our prophet which was like " jiss nay 3 beetyion ki parwash ki qaymat kay din wo meray sath assay ho ga jaisay aik hath ki do ungliyaan " :) I think having daughter is a blessings and mashAllah I feel so blessed to have one .
There was a woman who had 5 daughters and she was pregnant the 6th time. Her husband was a sucker, who told her that if its a girl even this time, consider it a divorce and don't comeback home or 'll kill you. She went into labour and gave birth to 6th daughter. Terrified by the prospects of being thrown out of the house and no where to go, she just could not feed the baby and next day the girl died of neglect. She buried the baby in the mortury at back of the hospital, came back home and told her husband that it was a still birth(birth of dead baby). However, every night she dreamed that her little newborn baby girl is crying and saying she wants milk. Extremely disturbed by seeing the same dream everyday, she went to a Moualana and told her the whole story and asked what could she do to stop this dream.
Moulana told her that she should go visit the grave and feed the baby girl her milk. Astnoshed by the answer she told him, the girl is dead since 2 weeks, but he said, just go to the grave. So the woman went to the grave and opened it up, surprised to find that the baby girl was alive and crying, and just at that time she felt the milk flowing through her chest. She picket the baby and tried to feed her, the baby took a few sips and turned away her mouth and said, i don't want your milk, i want Nestle milk pack.
What kills me is these jahil men who "TELL" their wives that you MUST give me a girl...last time I checked, don't men have X & Y chromosomes while females have XX...something like that..so isn't it rerally dependent on the male as to what sex the baby will be, and ultimately upto Allah. People should be thankful they even have a healthy, normal, baby...that's what matters.
There was a woman who had 5 daughters and she was pregnant the 6th time. Her husband was a sucker, who told her that if its a girl even this time, consider it a divorce and don't comeback home or 'll kill you. She went into labour and gave birth to 6th daughter. Terrified by the prospects of being thrown out of the house and no where to go, she just could not feed the baby and next day the girl died of neglect. She buried the baby in the mortury at back of the hospital, came back home and told her husband that it was a still birth(birth of dead baby). However, every night she dreamed that her little newborn baby girl is crying and saying she wants milk. Extremely disturbed by seeing the same dream everyday, she went to a Moualana and told her the whole story and asked what could she do to stop this dream.
Moulana told her that she should go visit the grave and feed the baby girl her milk. Astnoshed by the answer she told him, the girl is dead since 2 weeks, but he said, just go to the grave. So the woman went to the grave and opened it up, surprised to find that the baby girl was alive and crying, and just at that time she felt the milk flowing through her chest. She picket the baby and tried to feed her, the baby took a few sips and turned away her mouth and said, i don't want your milk, i want Nestle milk pack.
oh my god thats horrible n terrible :(
I am one of 3 daughters (no brothers)…I have had people ask me whether or not I have a brother and when I tell them NO…they do afsoos and say “aww your poor parents” Whenever my Dad would hear people say things like this he would say…“I wouldnt trade my 3 girls for anything not one son not 100.”
when my sister was pregnant with her first child her grandmother-in-law said to her “I’ll pray that you have a son”.
I think it’s different if after having one or 2 girls that someone says “they hope you have a boy”…it’s only natural for people to want one of each..but to say that for the first child is ridiculous!
If only people knew the reward a parent gets in the hereafter for raising 2/3 or more daughters. Such ignorant people I tell you! sigh
The Prophet (SAW) said that whoever raises 3 daughters and treats them well Allah (SWT) will admit them to paradise.
it’s a shame that people disregard this hadith as if there is no value to it.
There is a reason for ultrasound detection of boy but not girl. If there is a clear view of the genital area and a penis is seen, you know for sure its a boy. If a penis is not visualized, it can be either girl or boy. Even if its a clear view of the genital area, the view is still somewhat limited, the penis could be "hiding" so they can never be sure that its a girl - it might just be that the penis is hiding.
Those who want boys to be born are stuck in a very old attitude that does have basis in fact. Boys bring wealth to the family in that they can help with the farming, heavy work etc. They can bring a wife in as their mother ages so that the parents have more help when they get elderly. Girls cost money and they come with more worries than boys. You have to find them a good rishta and that can be costly - and for what - I mean, once they marry, they're gone. Again, thats very old but thats how things used to be. These days, girls can earn as much - or more - than guys and there are many opportunities open to them that were not there in the past. So the old views may die hard but they WILL die off eventually IMHO.
i wonder if the response of parents to having a girl or boy, has any affects later on in the future when the child grows up:hmmm:
is ther still that neglect, that feeling there? that i wanted a boy instead or grll
^^ yes...mine come and hug and kiss me...but my nephews, they hate all this mushy business. so amazing how different boys and girls are even when just born.
Whenever my Dad would hear people say things like this he would say…“I wouldnt trade my 3 girls for anything not one son not 100.” 