I was talking to my aunt yesterday, who lives in Pakistan, and she is expecting a boy. She asked me if I would like a girl or a boy as my first child and I said it doesn’t matter, as long as the baby and the mother are healthy, I am fine with whatever Allah blesses me with. One one hand it’s the “rehmat” (daughter) and then on other other hand it’s the “ne’mat” (son). We wouldn’t want to find out in advance and we would like it to be a surprise. She said something that drove my blood pressure from 100 to 1,000.
She said that here (in Pakistan), you don’t really get a choice. You go to the doctor, she does the ultrasound. If it’s a boy, she tells you joyously that it’s a boy. And if it’s a girl, she doesn’t say anything.
**Before you start picking this ^ part of my post and say that’s not true and you can ask the doctor not to disclose the gender, I agree. But keep in mind, she lives in a small town and that’s how things are done in that hospital, so ignore this part for a second. Let’s focus on the next paragraph.
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Moving along, I said “oh, so the lady doctor is not happy when it’s a girl?”. She was speechless, but after a pause said, no that’s probably not the case. It’s just the way they tell. If it’s a boy, they tell you, if it’s a girl, they don’t say anything and you know it’s a girl. That boiled my blood but I kept calm because it was late at night when I was talking to her, I was already speaking loudly because the signal strength wasn’t good, and I did not want to start an argument.
I had heard and read in books how people in the dark ages (pre-Islam) did not get excited when girls were born, but for crying out loud, let that crappy mentality go!!! Boy or a girl, it’s a blessing. At least it’s alive, healthy, and the mother is doing fine!!! I have seen boys that grew up to be jackasses and the daughters took care of their parents instead. I would be delighted to have a daughter. In fact, I already have a name in mind and I am going to name her that, no matter what anyone else suggests. As for a boy, I never thought of a name. I will do that when time comes.
Anyway, Am I the only one who has experienced this ignorance first-hand or do you know of anyone as well who thinks along the same lines?
its none of their friggin business.