Re: …Son vs. Daughter…
It’s one thing when you already have 1 gender and you wish for the other. That completely makes sense. Most people and I are talking about the preference for the first child. We should not be picking what we want, we should be grateful of what we get from Him.
That is true. Thank you for your prayer Dushwari jee 
Hareem: That’s an interesting perspective to look at it, however, I agree with what Mirch said above. You only have 2 choices: It’s either a boy or a girl. So if it’s a boy, doctors (again, exceptions exist) tell you with joy that it’s a boy. If they don’t tell you anything, that automatically means it’s a girl. So it’s really not that they were trying to avoid telling ignorant mothers, it seems like they are ignorant themselves. As professionals, they should be happy and should not hesitate to tell the gender. It’s their job to deliver the baby, they should gladly do it. In fact, if someone is sad because they are having a daughter, doctors are the first people that should take the first opportunity to tell the parents how blessed they will be to have a healthy child. In Pakistan, it seems like such doctors (I am speaking of in my first post) are failing at their jobs.
100% right. It depends on what chromosomes pair up with the eggs and those chromosomes come from father. So someone needs to educate the old-thinking idiots and tell them if you want to kick someone out because she did not have a boy, kick your son out, not your daughter-in-law (or wife).
I agree with the bold part. As for the other part, inshallah when time comes, if anyone does “afsos” with me because I am having a girl, I am mentally prepared to never speak with them again, even if it’s my own family.
**Thank you all for sharing your experiences.
Iconolast** I was so into the story and had to re-read the last line when I got to it because I could not believe it 