couple A- husband is loyal loving man who adores his wife, only thing he doesnt like is her lack of aware ness when at times esp functions she wears clothes which can be seethruough, so u can see her bra/cleavage at times, its accident, for eg when she bends down, or the neckline is bigger than she thought, anyway as much as she tries to hide it, itl show at times when shes not aware and husband doesnt like it. she says he doesnt say anything in front of anyone but he will tell her privately, that next time dont wear these…etc…so anyway now she tells me how she thinks this is an extremist attitude, and how her cousin, ( my other couysin)s husband lets her wear whatever she wants, whatever flesh is on display doesnt matter and she considers this liberal.....hence normal.`…
her husband is pakistani, from pakistan, while my other cusins husbands from here the uk, and so she now thinks this is the reason her husband is like this. i agree with her husband , whats the matter with her,any husband would most likely wouldnt want his wifes flesh on displya…and this isnt the first time its happened with her…
hes a nice guy otherwise,she even says so…
so is this attitude normal? a guy telling us to cover up is extremist and controlling??? REALLY?:khums:
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nadz, I've seen this happen as well.. always feel bad for the husbands in this situation.. especially if they are telling their spouses in private and yet it keeps on being a problem
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Tell her to use double-sided tape. It works miracles for the low necklines.
As a woman, you can't be "unaware" of how your body appears in front of others. Whether it's the sheer material of fabric or low necklines - you always need to use some care IF it matters to the woman to be dressed modestly. If it doesn't, then that's her choice as well - but, yes her husband may have an opinion about it.
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I dont think its extremist. My fiance is from Canada, and he doesnt like it either. I dont think any man wants his wife on display for others to see. She should be more careful with the clothing she wears. When her cleavage is showing, others are probably not comfortable with it either, but cant say anything, cause its not their business. Tell her to cover up, and respect her husbands wishes. She isnt lowering herself by taking her husbands words into consideration. Im sure she would want her husband to abide by something she wanted as well.
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this isn’t a problem of either man/men …
issue lies with the woman. if as a Muslim woman she does not care enough to dress carefully to preserve her modesty, then in my narrow minded (:halo:) opinion she is simply behayaa.
why bring in the poor hubbies at all … she is expected to know the cultural norms and religious restrictions … is she not?
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whats wrong with her... i bet if he wasnt saying anything and men were oggling at her cleavage at a party .... she would be whining bout how other men were staring at her and her husband was so beghairat as to not say anything..... honestly
my husband is born and raised in denmark and has issues with my necklines from time to time... it leaves me happy.
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does she not fear Allah? or does she not care? it seems a lot of people have stopped fearing Allah and his punishment in-order to show off their bodies in functions.. and if her husband does not tell her off for showing her boobs off then i am sure the next door neighbor or anyone else will not mind. Allah will ask her husband, she was in the wrong she was your wife why did you not tell her off. extremism is wrong, i admit that but Allah has said dress modestly so by even questioning the husband (because lets face it all he wants is for his wife to do is not show off her boobs and dress modestly) is totally wrong. u can not call the law of The All Mighty as extreme..
and if anyone thinks im an extremist for saying this then i really don't care because Allah is the best of Judges..
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I agree with that.
whats wrong with her... i bet if he wasnt saying anything and men were oggling at her cleavage at a party .... she would be whining bout how other men were staring at her and her husband was so beghairat as to not say anything..... honestly
my husband is born and raised in denmark and has issues with my necklines from time to time... it leaves me happy.
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If she did listen to him and take care of such a little thing, he would definitely love her and respect her more. Ask her how she would feel if her husband attracted attention from other women and did nothing about it, even after her requests.
If nothing else, she should add some caution when they are out at places where hubby is around.
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My dewaraani in PK usually has her cleavage on display, it really disgusts me that she doesn't cover herself properly at all. In fact her blind husband doesn't even say anything to her. I know if I ever had anything accidently showing my hubby would make sure he told me ASAP so I could cover properly. I am careful however alhamdulilla that nothing is on display butt this SIL really doesm y nerves in, she is the only bahu in my in laws house that thinks it's OK and her hubby is a stupid . for ignoring this!!!!
^ Does your husband also keep a watch on your temper & language you use?
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Qayamat ke din uss ke shohor se BHI poocha jaayega ke usne kisi ghalat kaam p apni wife ko kyun nahin toka! kyunke shadi ke baad larki apnay husband ki zimmedari hoti hay, so if she does any thing wrong and her husband allows it too, then he is also responsible for her sins and will be punished equally!
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She should be able to wear what she wants...qayamat ke din uskay husband se poochengay ya ussay?
Qayamat ke din uss ke shohor se BHI poocha jaayega ke usne kisi ghalat kaam p apni wife ko kyun nahin toka! kyunke shadi ke baad larki apnay husband ki zimmedari hoti hay, so if she does any thing wrong and her husband allows it too, then he is also responsible for her sins and will be punished equally!