Some sort of love triangle :(

[waleedhbk]

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^ Same here. May Allah (swt) protect us from a tangled love life.

Ameen

[ZareenKhan]

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@Sehrysh

No, it’s not better late than never. It’s selfish. And selfish is as selfish does. Fine, she can express her feelings for the guy and if she’s lucky, he’ll love her back, dump his fiancee days before the wedding and these two will ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after…

Except wait, there is no happily ever after, because they will have earned the contempt of the family for their selfishness, which will follow them for the rest of the lives. But hey, in the larger scheme of things what’s a life lived without respect and forgiveness, at least they’ll have each other

I never said it was easy or the super right thing to do. But all this is easier to say when its not you who is experiencing that. I know i was all mad at kank and still would be but seeing something similiar happen 2 a friend i have sort of seen the other side of it too. So maybe thats why i can somewhat relate to it. All kinds of things happen in life and there are no definate rite/wrong answers for them.

[Khumar]

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I never said it was easy or the super right thing to do. But all this is easier to say when its not you who is experiencing that. I know i was all mad at kank and still would be but seeing something similiar happen 2 a friend i have sort of seen the other side of it too. So maybe thats why i can somewhat relate to it. All kinds of things happen in life and there are no definate rite/wrong answers for them.

You're getting your advice from a bollywood movie?!?!

[ZareenKhan]

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You're getting your advice from a bollywood movie?!?!

Ofcourse not. I m just trying to explain to you that i dont think highly of all this either esp when a marriage is involved. However there are situations that are beyond anyone's control. You can't really judge them for it.

[NomiCA]

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Nothing can defeat Love!

[Khumar]

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yes…yes it can. it’s called parents

@ZareenKhan

Ofcourse not. I m just trying to explain to you that i dont think highly of all this either esp when a marriage is involved. However there are situations that are beyond anyone’s control. You can’t really judge them for it.

Yeah well if you can’t judge anyone for anything, maybe you should stop judging the motives behind the guy’s marrying someone else

[ZareenKhan]

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@Murgi

Yeah well if you can’t judge anyone for anything, maybe you should stop judging the motives behind the guy’s marrying someone else

I was not judging him for it. I was wondering what could have been the reason for this. There is a huge difference between the two.

[diwana]

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@ria786

I need major help! The guy iv been in love with since forever is getting married really soon..what do I do? Stay quiet and keep it to myself or tell him?...it's complicated because he's also my cousin :( in the past he did admit to having feelings for me but at that point I was involved in a relationship with someone else. This is really killing me...even though I can't see him backing out of his wedding now...shouldnt he still KNOW how I feel? Or am I just asking for trouble? What can I do?.... How can I possibly go to his wedding and act like everything is fine when it's not?

Urgent advice needed please :(

Buy a nice gift.................for his bride!

[King_Mughal]

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well im a guy....so i'll tell u in my point of view........if he getz married and after he findz out tht u were really falling for him...than as a guy u can say tht he will feel bad and u knw.....but first i dont knw tht does he like u or no.....if he does than i say u should carry on.....but if he doesnt than i guess u were in a realation before so than u can find another one.....with all due respect.......and i think no matter wht u should tell bcuz if the guy letz say want to be with u......he wouldnt knw tht u like him or not.........now i dont knw the detailz but.....i look at it this way......tht life comez at u once.....so go for it....if no than no...and if yes than yes.....u see my point na.......hopefully tht helpz.....thnkz...and sory if i said anything............

[Deeba1234]

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@ZareenKhan

I was not judging him for it. I was wondering what could have been the reason for this. There is a huge difference between the two.

I was wondering about that as well.. a tiny part of me thinks as it was literally just a few days later that he said he was getting married he might have been doing it just to get back at her/hurt her or get her to say she really wanted him.. but then again it's a bit drastic considering in our culture engagements + weddings are such a huge deal with the whole family involved and so on.. More likely a quick engagement to try and erase that hurt/rejection from his mind, of course not necessarily the right thing to do but at the end of the day still his choice.. I just hope he doesn't turn round after marriage and say 'I love you, not her.'

A friend of mine (non desi) who was getting married had her ex telling her he was moving abroad just because he wanted her to admit her 'real' feelings, dump her fiance and say 'please don't go'.. the games ppl play when it comes to these things are amazing..

[Gina]

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@ria786

I need major help! The guy iv been in love with since forever is getting married really soon..what do I do? Stay quiet and keep it to myself or tell him?...it's complicated because he's also my cousin :( in the past he did admit to having feelings for me but at that point I was involved in a relationship with someone else. This is really killing me...even though I can't see him backing out of his wedding now...shouldnt he still KNOW how I feel? Or am I just asking for trouble? What can I do?.... How can I possibly go to his wedding and act like everything is fine when it's not?

Urgent advice needed please :(

You've loved him since 'forever' but you were involved in a relationship with someone else? Now that he's moving-on with life you want him back because your other relationship didn't work-out? He's made a decision, just like you had when you were involved with someone else. Let him get married to the girl he wants to be with.

[sarashahid]

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i doubt people marry other people to get back at someone. I seriously doubt that. Marriage is a HUGE commitment, esp for desis, and esp since he's marrying someone in the family. He's NEVER going to dump her. He probably loves her by now, how long was the time from the engagement to the wedding? my point is, if he didn't love her he would have broken the engagement anyways, with or without you in the picture. Since he hasn't, then he probably loves her now (even if we assume he didn't when he got engaged), and no matter what you say, he would happily go on with the wedding. so if you want to tell him, go ahead. But I dont think he will be affected much, he's probably much too involved in his wedding and then married life.
The only case in which he might say 'i love you , not her' is if he is being forced into this wedding. otherwise, I doubt he's going to say that in the future. Has he been forced into this?
At the end of the day, you are there, not us, and if your heart tells you to confess to him, then do so.

[hunni_buney]

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@partyslims

Tell him. And then post here about what happens.