I need major help! The guy iv been in love with since forever is getting married really soon..what do I do? Stay quiet and keep it to myself or tell him?..it’s complicated because he’s also my cousin in the past he did admit to having feelings for me but at that point I was involved in a relationship with someone else. This is really killing me…even though I can’t see him backing out of his wedding now…shouldnt he still KNOW how I feel? Or am I just asking for trouble? What can I do?.. How can I possibly go to his wedding and act like everything is fine when it’s not?
Yes, i'm joking. At this stage it is indeed very tricky. If you were in the position as the other girl about to get married, would you want one of your fiance's ex crushes or whatever, to come up to him and tell him that she has feelings for him that close to your wedding? I think not.
Sorry, you have no right to ruin his wedding for him. He had feelings for you and moved on, that's the end of that. You only have feelings for him because you're on the rebound.
Oh you species never able to amaze me. Please don’t ruin his peaceful life & certainly the marriage too.
why not you try to work on restoring your old relationship with someone else..
He's not marrying another cousin but she is distantly related to us...and she's, unfortunately, always been really nice to me :s
He approached me and told me how he felt a few months back but i told him I was seeing someone... I told him I was getting engaged to someone else and at that point he looked shocked/crushed...so my baat pakkhi happened... 2 days later these two (cousin and relative) announce they have feelings for each other and are getting engaged even though everyone knew for a fact they'd only met a few days earlier for the first time. To make a long story short, some of my cousins believe he only made this sudden decision due to the fact that my baath pakkhi had occurred. My relationship then ended for a lot of reasons and in the meantime he remains engaged as...really..what choice does he have when she's FAMILY?
How can I possibly go to his wedding and act like everything is fine when it's not?
How? The same way that you kept quiet around him all these years.....(when he wasn't getting married)....and you had the opportunity to tell him but you didn't. You kept quiet about your feelings all this while (maybe even years)....you can also manage to do so for a wedding, which will last a few days. It hurts...I can understand that....but what will you gain from it? And it may make him feel awkward as well.
I am curious though....why didn't you tell him when you had the chance? Was it because he was in a relationship or you feared he didn't feel the same? It may even be, as Deeba suggested, that you subconsciously like him because you can't have him..........after all you were in a relationship with someone else. Everything happens for a reason. You will get over this.
I was involved in an abusive relationship which has left me emotionally scarred by that guy
Well then you need to take some time off, because this guy is getting married and it's too late. Their is nothing you can do good at this moment except running the marriage + creating rifts among families.
in the past he did admit to having feelings for me but at that point I was involved in a relationship with someone else. This is really killing me…even though I can’t see him backing out of his wedding now…shouldnt he still KNOW how I feel? Or am I just asking for trouble? What can I do?.. How can I possibly go to his wedding and act like everything is fine when it’s not?
