Some sort of love triangle :(

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*expecting more n more posts untill someone says ...say it to the guy"

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RV: I didn't tell him when I had the chance because I was afraid he didn't feel the same. By the time he told me how he felt I believed I'd found prince charming which I hadn't :( Now I just feel as though all iv done is make stupid decisions. Should I just not go to the wedding? How do I get out of it?

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Life = stupid decisions. Deal with it.

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umm honey, take the advice of everyone here. regardless of him jumping into a relationship because you rejected him, or you're emotionally scarred, the fact remains that he is going into a long-term, committed relationship with another person. who at this moment is a lot closer to him than you are/were. guys can put aside their feelings and get over things much better than girls, so right now, he's most probably not thinking about you.

however, if you think your life is a bollywood movie, and that if you tell him now, he will leave everything behind and run away with you, then you are delusioned. you will ruin your relationship with him, and the family if you say something.

i suggest you go out with your girlfriends, party hard, get over your ex properly instead of jumping into a relationship. that's much healthier than telling an old crush that you like him now.

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Murgi: thanks. You made it very clear for me. I have no right to interfere with his life now so best I try and move on with mine

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stay quiet otherwise it will ruin his and your life.

think of it as perhaps you two aren't meant to be together since when he was there for you you were with someone else and now you want to be with him but he is with someone else.

also think of it as "if i love him then i should be happy with his happiness"

you should go to his wedding otherwise ppl will question your absence since you are the cousin. just try to control your feelings and perhaps avoid going infront of him too much. good luck and pray for yourself.

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Re: Some sort of love triangle :frowning:

kukri spoke something different than all others?? :hmmm:

@Murgi…you da man :k:

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Move on :)... You will find someone compatible in future....

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wassup :smooth:

OP: you’re welcome :slight_smile:

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[quote=“Murgi”]

wassup :smooth:

Are you smoking crack :stuck_out_tongue: ? hahahahah… Wassup my G? lol

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He is right you da man, you showed the light of the day to the OP. :k:

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That murgi be a smart one eh :wink:

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You know your family better than we do. If you can come up with a good enough excuse to miss the wedding...(and if your relatives will be okay with it and not develop a grudge)....then don't attend the wedding. Even if you're able to get out of the wedding.....I think you should still congratulate him and wish him well.

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LOL. I read the title and then i hurriedly took a look at the posters name and i almost had a stroke.

I thought it was rizla86 instead of ria786. And the first line is.. the guy ive been in love with.

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Lol. When I saw the thread I was confused for a split second too. Anyway, let it be clear to everyone once and for all, I do not swing that way.

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STAY OUT OF IT. And do not hint at things or flirt with him. Breaking up a happy marriage is a serious thing. Any slight behavior toward that is disgusting. Keep your distance.

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He's not married yet, engaged men are fair game methinks. Also, if I was rejected by a girl, and then she developed feelings for me, oh man...that'd be some very sweet ironic revenge.

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I dont think you're necessarily in love with him. I think you got out of a bad relationship, are scarred and maybe looking for love.

You need to move on. Regardless of why he did what he did...he DID make the decision to marry this girl on his own.

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Looks like it is difficult to escape from a love triangle than from a Bermuda triangle. (Sorry for the cheap joke)

On a serious note, it is really sad to see people going through such painful times in life. It is even more sad when they don't realize the root cause of the situation that they get themselves into, due to inappropriate decisions in life. Their heart consider 'something' to be the cure of their pain, but that 'thing' would instead aggravate the pain in the long run.

Neither would 'forgetting' him help, nor would 'getting' him satisfy a heart that is trained to develop feelings in such a random manner. Even if you get him, and later you didn't feel satisfied with him, then the person you were previously involved with might immediately pop up in your broken heart and then he might seem to you relatively a better option. An IDEAL option....I might be totally wrong but this is what I understand from:
[QUOTE]
The guy iv been in love with since forever...... in the past he did admit to having feelings for me but at that point I was involved in a relationship with someone else..... &....
I was involved in an abusive relationship which has left me emotionally scarred by that guy
[/QUOTE]

Sorry if I sound harsh, but instead of sorting out the love triangle, it would be better to sort out ones way of thinking, by being careful in making choices in life and by not letting ones heart carried away with temporary temptations. One shares a part of ones heart in a relationship, and it is better to not let anyone waste it, instead, it is better to wait for the one who really values your feelings, the way you value his feelings..

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Nice.