and there is one question comes into my mind, are you the only one who has relationship with her? I there is other one on-line or offline who forces her to keep her old ids and forces her to behave otherwise which understandably you think in appropriate. it can be emotionally blackmailing to her too.
she is not letting it out openly.
do think about this way.
other thing, when some one in love they do go out of the way for the relationship or for person they love, if you and her are not doing that, there may be other factors hindering this process.
Well i never think like that, but its interesting to know this dimension. I will see what can i put up on this !