So you and hubby are going out, you're all dolled up...

[KaafHaaYaaAynSaad]

Re: So you and hubby are going out, you’re all dolled up…

@R.A.W

Brother, Kaaf…this ghayrah thing is a bit tricky in this present age (full of hypocrites like me), and easily creates misunderstandings. Most of people’s mind have been fed by the media to think of it only in terms of “Honor killing” instead of considering it from Hazrat Umar’s perspective, the first man to suggest “pardah” in front of the Prophet (saw). (and later the Quranic Ayah were revealed in favor of his opinion).

Also, ‘Gyarah’ is a tool often misuded by hypocrites after marriage. You would see a man who actually had no problems flirting/dating with different women (scanning their displayed assets) when he was a bachelor, but suddenly he becomes very possessive, protective and full of gyayrah when one of them became his wife. Where was all that self respect when he used to use his eyes like an X-ray machine non stop, day and night. And still after marriage, some of those ghayrah-filled hubbys continue to extract pleasure from display of other’s wives, but those same lustfull eyes are suddenly filled with honor when it comes to their own wife. May Allah (swt) bless hidayah to people like me to realize and correct their hypocrite-like behavior.

Can’t disagree with that. Pick and choose from Islam when it suits us and discard it when we want to follow our desires.

May Allah guide us and have mercy on us.