i am 25 years. my mother is extremly worried about my marriage. as i am sanwali and people put me down jst because of color. i dnt do job. recently i got 2 purposals.
1st rishta; he is 28, doing eye specialization in pims, he says i want a girl who do job . and the thought came to my mind. what if i got job hw will marry.and after marriage if i lose job he will leave me. there is no age limit. he will marry even 28 year old girl. nt more than that.
2nd rishta he is pathan. do property dealing. dnt knw much about him.
do you people feel insecruties marrying a pathan bcz of cultural diffrences.i am punjabi.
and and i am so worried who will going to accept me. as rishta ladies said no after taking money. that your girl is nt stylish, beautiful and fair so we could not help …
astaghfirullah, at least don't believe what rishta aunties say, you are just 25years old and worried, girls now at the age of 32 don't bother, nothing is in your hand girl, so stop worrying, your match will come soon inshaAllah, but don't feel about your complexion even dark girls get married very soon, your taqdeer is not related to your complexion , height weight education,its written by Allah subhan taalla, have faith on him,the rishta you have mentioned must be unacceptable, because it shows rest ALLAH knows he couldn't afford that much, he couldnt be responsible for his wife so he wants his wife to work, later on these things become issue which is offcourse not good. and be who you are, because who knows the guy you getting marry like your simplicity, your sanwala rang. never change for people demands.
and my prayers for you may ALLAH pak grant you spouse with good character soon ameen
seems like you were born with the sole purpose of getting married.
There is a beautiful world outside marriage as well, get a job and enjoy life while you can.
astaghfirullah, at least don't believe what rishta aunties say, you are just 25years old and worried, girls now at the age of 32 don't bother, nothing is in your hand girl, so stop worrying, your match will come soon inshaAllah, but don't feel about your complexion even dark girls get married very soon, your taqdeer is not related to your complexion , height weight education,its written by Allah subhan taalla, have faith on him,the rishta you have mentioned must be unacceptable, because it shows rest ALLAH knows he couldn't afford that much, he couldnt be responsible for his wife so he wants his wife to work, later on these things become issue which is offcourse not good. and be who you are, because who knows the guy you getting marry like your simplicity, your sanwala rang. never change for people demands.
and my prayers for you may ALLAH pak grant you spouse with good character soon ameen
i am not worried about my color. i am halki sanwali. nw my complexion is better iam feeling good. people remarks make me worry and
seems like you were born with the sole purpose of getting married.
There is a beautiful world outside marriage as well, get a job and enjoy life while you can.
oh ..i think so ;). some times i think all we have to do is to get married/////
my mother is worried. how can i ignore......
i am a happy person. but some time i am so frustrated bcz of this rishta thing.... and some time i say rude things later on make me guilty. .... i want peace
As a guy I can tell you that everyday I see many gori and white girls around and do not feel attracted to them. It's a matter of personal choice there are lots of guys who do not think about skin color, normally such objection comes from the ladies of his house. Ignore what rishta aunty said, they only care about their fee and since it's their business don't think too hard about what she said.
Your thinking about 1st proposal is bit childish to me and it seems you are not involved yourself in rishta process and just making assumptions. What happens to your job after marriage is not under your control. Also your parents should let you meet, or at least see the guys and have some basic conversation before finalizing anything.
About ethnicity of the second proposal, people have prejudices about skin color, race, cast, language, ethnicity, sect, nationality, height, weight and what not. It is something that you have to decide for yourself. None of us can tell you whether punjabi+pathan marriage will be good or not.
astaghfirullah, at least don't believe what rishta aunties say, you are just 25years old and worried, girls now at the age of 32 don't bother, nothing is in your hand girl, so stop worrying, your match will come soon inshaAllah, but don't feel about your complexion even dark girls get married very soon, your taqdeer is not related to your complexion , height weight education,its written by Allah subhan taalla, have faith on him,the rishta you have mentioned must be unacceptable, because it shows rest ALLAH knows he couldn't afford that much, he couldnt be responsible for his wife so he wants his wife to work, later on these things become issue which is offcourse not good. and be who you are, because who knows the guy you getting marry like your simplicity, your sanwala rang. never change for people demands.
and my prayers for you may ALLAH pak grant you spouse with good character soon ameen
thank you for prayers.only your reply gave me hope. thank you for your kind words... thnx....
.... matlb meri to koe value he nae h na... value to job ki ha. ..... job krn g to wo shadi karay ga.... then what i am. ....:(......
I did not say anything like that.
What I said is that you have no control over job, none of us has. So if you are assuming that he will leave you if you lose job after marriage then its not the right assumption.
Did he tell you exactly that he will leave you if you lose the job? If so, then forget this guy.
If you are assuming this on your own because he wants a working wife then you may not be thinking correctly.
astaghfirullah, at least don't believe what rishta aunties say, you are just 25years old and worried, girls now at the age of 32 don't bother, nothing is in your hand girl, so stop worrying, your match will come soon inshaAllah, but don't feel about your complexion even dark girls get married very soon, your taqdeer is not related to your complexion , height weight education,its written by Allah subhan taalla, have faith on him,the rishta you have mentioned must be unacceptable, because it shows rest ALLAH knows he couldn't afford that much, he couldnt be responsible for his wife so he wants his wife to work, later on these things become issue which is offcourse not good. and be who you are, because who knows the guy you getting marry like your simplicity, your sanwala rang. never change for people demands.
and my prayers for you may ALLAH pak grant you spouse with good character soon ameen
There is no harm in looking for a wife who is doing job and is established professionally. It does not necessarily mean that the guy cannot afford a wife and is looking for a breadwinner.
a guy is supposed to do a job and wife is supposed to look after home and kids......
all men here are so extremely sensitive and defending the guy,
will you marry a girl who doesnot do any of her duties and donot gve u any of your haqq....... will you??????
what are your qualifications or proof of competency in the "look after home and kids" field? How do we know that you are good at that when you aren't even open to working??
I've started to get worried by all the posts by girls younger than me because right now half my friends my age are unmarried and it's still not considered a big deal right now.
My aunt has experience with rishta aunties for her kids and they're quite complimentary before they get paid but after they get paid they're horrible and get nasty about looks, height everything. They try to make the family feel like it's the girl's fault whereas it's just the rishta aunty who doesn't have a wide enough search area. Allah knows what's best for you and the right time when you'll get the guy.
My family is Punjabi and my sister married a Pathan. My sister is tan-skinned and my bil is very fair complected. It made no difference to him. They are both very happy, MashaAllah.
If rishta aunties don’t think that you can get a rishta and if they don’t think they can help you…they shouldn’t take your hard-earned money. How cheap is it to take someone’s money and to then insult them for their looks which to an extent cannot be controlled. If some guy managed to marry the classless, tactless, ill-mannered rishta aunti…then there’s hope for you too. Allah’s got a plan for you too. May Allah bless you with a husband whom you will be attracted to and compatible with, who will be the coolness of your eyes in every way, and () may you be blessed with a partner that far exceeds the poor expectations of those around you…to the point that it leaves them stunned and humbled. Amin and Sum Amin to all of that!
what are your qualifications or proof of competency in the "look after home and kids" field? How do we know that you are good at that when you aren't even open to working??
) may you be blessed with a partner that far exceeds the poor expectations of those around you…to the point that it leaves them stunned and humbled. Amin and Sum Amin to all of that!