Re: So Very Confused!
Okay so I had a talk with my mom. I kind of didn’t tell her the entire story, I kinda just said oh mom he said can we talk and I said yes (and she was extremely mad for me saying yes). Anyways then I said, he just said all these things (kinda like a confession, but my mom thinks I didn’t speak with him, he just kinda said all this stuff to me if that makes sense). Anyways, my mom said the same exact thing you guys are saying, that he wants to marry that other cousin and is lying about all these things to get me to break the rishta. My mom said its up to me when it comes to what I wanna do, BUT if we break the rishta a whole lot of problems will happen. First of all, my mom did not want me to marry this guy and she wanted me to marry a man of her choosing, but my dad liked him and my dad’s sister (his mom) begged her to say yes so my mom agreed. So the first problem that will happen is that his family will say that we are lying about his behavior as my mom never liked him in the first place, the second problem will be that my dad will most likely divorce my mom given the relationship that they have, thirdly my dad will probably break all contact with his family, and the whole “laug kya kahenge” thing will happen. However, my mom is okay with this given that I REALLY want to break the rishta but the thing is I don’t want all of this to happen because of me. Another thing she said is that he will finish his studies abroad within the next year or so and for the next two years his personality will change as he will move back to Pakistan.
Ughhhhhhhh
Your dad will divorce your mom if you don’t marry this dirt bag? Wtf! Let your mom talk to your dad and tell all those things you said to her. I guess I am not aware of where you are coming from but if your dad is a teeny bit considerate of you then he won’t force you or create drama to marry. And yeah, one thing, people don’t change.