Re: So Very Confused!
Listen, you’re on the verge of making a mistake. He’s clearly telling you all of this and there is a reason behind it. If he truly wanted to marry you then he wouldn’t tell all of this to you. This has seriously disturbed you and he knows that, perhaps he wants you to be doubtful about him. Ask yourself, if you wanted to marry someone and genuinely liked someone would you tell all the gritty details of your past that would jeopardize your relationship? You wouldn’t tell them that but you would improve yourself and hope for the best in the future. It bothers me that he is telling you all of this. He has no remorse that what he’s telling you could disturb you. He has no care for your feelings. He doesn’t think twice that what would be going in your heart, the pain the sorrow upon knowing that he slept with multiple girls. That he smokes and drinks, he seems very self centered and if you do decide to marry him he’ll probably care about himself more than you. You have to discuss this with your parents, you cannot risk your entire life just because of their “Happiness”. Did his confession come as if he’s trying to improve himself or does he still do it? How do you know if he still doesn’t do it? How do you know if he’s going to stop doing all of these things? You’re only 19 and you have your whole life ahead of you. You have to choose wisely.
He said he’s telling me all this because I deserve to know and he does not want our relationship to start on false hopes. He said I’m not shareef as your parents told you I am. Also, the first day of Ramadan he asked can you please pray that I become better. He said I can let go of the girlfriends, drugs, and drink but trying to stop smoking will be hard.