It’s part of human nature to love and to be loved. As grown ups we don’t shy to express our affections and likings for opposite sex in casual manner, then why it becomes somewhat uncomfertable for us when a person of above a certain age expresses these romantic feelings for some other person of his own age group? (I am not talking about reciting Riksha poetry and bollywood songs here, feelings can be expressed in many ways)
Feelings don’t wither with age and they are not even associated with a certain age group only (Young adults). How would you react if you face such situation?
We used to arrange dates for our parents, as they were both working stupid hours and barely had time for each other as their work meant they travelled a lot also. We used to book a table at their favourite restaurants, arrange a private screening of their favourite film, buy them tickets for a weekend getaway somewhere in Europe etc.... My friends used to think it was weird that we did that, but we always had an open relationship with our parents.
I hope my daughters cae enough to do something like that for us when we're old. :(
The romance and dating is reserved for young folks in desi culture. .Desi society expects wisdom and maturity from older folks not romance and dating.
The mere though of old geezers holding hands or having a romantic dinner makes desiesi rotfl.
Most if find out that some old person is contemplating a wedding will say " Mian yeh un k Allah Allah karnay k din hain shadi karnay k nahi."
It's part of human nature to love and to be loved. As grown ups we don't shy to express our affections and likings for opposite sex in casual manner, then why it becomes somewhat uncomfertable for us when a person of above a certain age expresses these romantic feelings for some other person of his own age group? (I am not talking about reciting Riksha poetry and bollywood songs here, feelings can be expressed in many ways)
Feelings don't wither with age and they are not even associated with a certain age group only (Young adults). How would you react if you face such situation?
b4 marriage n kids i might not hav understood this but now i absolutely will love this idea. if my parents go i'll b happy for them. i'm even all for parent's remarrying if one partners passes away but that's just me.
I had step mother, who I didn;t like....
so I would be like ... yeah Dad bang that .... u know...
PM u hav mentioned ur stepmom several times that u don't like her n u never had a good childhood. Can u plz share ur story in another thread. really i'm craving to hear all this step mom story. just didn't find it proper to pm u for that. so plz will ya :)
I'm a HOPELESS ROMANTIC....so I think parents SHOULD go on dates. It actually annoys me that desi parents are so flipping boring and dry that they just stay home and never go on dates with each other.
My fiance told me his dad doesn't like to go anywhere (he has never taken his mom or the family out to eat...they always have to order in or get take-out)...although he says that his mom would want to go out if his dad was just willing. His mom however, never makes her feelings known. I could never live like this....honestly desi parents have just as much a right to go on dates as white people.
The romance and dating is reserved for young folks in desi culture. .*Desi society expects wisdom and maturity from older folks not romance and dating. *
The mere though of old geezers holding hands or having a romantic dinner makes desiesi rotfl.
Most if find out that some old person is contemplating a wedding will say " Mian yeh un k Allah Allah karnay k din hain shadi karnay k nahi."
Yeah but wisdom and expressing affection for another person are not co-related. I mean of course wisdom dictates that they should not exhibit a behavior which is not suitable for their age group i.e writing a poem and singing a song holding a rosebud in their hands etc etc but I don't think there is any harm in going out for dinner once a while as a couple, and children should also give them some privacy.
Now the another aspect of this, why is that, that no matter how broadminded or socially evolved a family is (talking about desi families here) there is always someone to judge the in-laws related to the family!
b4 marriage n kids i might not hav understood this but now i absolutely will love this idea. if my parents go i'll b happy for them. i'm even all for parent's remarrying if one partners passes away but that's just me.
I'd encourage my Dad or Mum to remarry if the other passed away or they got divorced or something. I'd hate for either of them to be alone as in not have a partner to share a bond with, no matter how old they are :(
Agree with candy_apple as well, wish it was more encouraged for desi parents to go on dates and spend more quality time with each other rather than just going thru the motions year after year, I don't think I could live like that.
I'd encourage my Dad or Mum to remarry if the other passed away or they got divorced or something. I'd hate for either of them to be alone as in not have a partner to share a bond with, no matter how old they are :(
Agree with candy_apple as well, wish it was more encouraged for desi parents to go on dates and spend more quality time with each other rather than just going thru the motions year after year, I don't think I could live like that.
Deeba u n me r exceptionals.otherwise i know kids even married kids making such a fuss when their parents r left all alone n crave for a partner. If they cannot stop their parents from the decision to re-marry they'll be on bad terms with the new mom/dad.
