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Just because some kaamwaalis do it don't mean she has to do it. If SMOE kamwaalis do it, it is obvious some don't so the kamwaali in question can choose to not wash said item.
Also bringing up the kamwaalis unreliability towards end of the post is what I define as moving the goal post.
Beckhams help probably gets much better pay.
Having attitude she should do whatever we ask her is not healthy and is unfair to the kameaali.
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Your husband has patience. I would leave my wife if she was like you. That's if your the same in real life as you are online. Drama.
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no im not like this in real life. well, sort of. not. kind of.
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you just need friends to talk to
thats why you're going crazy because you don't have any friends wherever you live
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nah. well i have friends. a few. not close friends, just friendly.
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Wife forced me to read this thread.
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sab nay nadx kay thread ko entertainment samjh rakah hai. :pcg:
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^ and what did you learn from this thread?
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Nahi yeh aala darjay ki taleem haiy.
That i am most fortunate to be a pakistani mard
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mayar kafi high lag raha hai. ;)
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Wife forced me to read this thread.
where you quizzed on it afterwards to ensure that the homework had been done?
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Yes and i failed terribly she gave me a U i.e. ungraded 
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oh dear.....better you study again and ask for a re-write.
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so did someone clean the fan yet? Hawa main kuch khunki mehsoos ho rahi hai…
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Abhi saaf hain. Eid pe kar doon ga.
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Thing is Nadz, you did not ask to live with them, you may have agreed to live with your in laws, yes but you don't have the option to move out just yet. That's why I can see the situation you are facing and yes, your in laws are wrong.
If you had asked to move in with your in laws because you couldn't pay the rent that it would be different. Your fault in the entire thing is that you agreed to marry someone who is very different. I am surprised at your parents too as they raised you in a western country and married you off (I assume it was an arranged marriage) and sent you off to live in Pakistan. There are some girls who do adjust but your mind set is different. All I can advise you is to try and make the best of it for now and try and do little things for your in laws so at least your husband can see that you are making an effort.
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The kaamwali must have said this all in pashto.
Wayee wayee jaangay (jaankay?)
That sounds less awful than in English.
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well my husband has agreed to move back, in 2 years. he wants to spend some time with his parents. he is right. their his parents. and i agreed when he asked me this before marriage. but if mother and wife dont get along, then best solutuion is to move. he sees that but i feel he would be unhappy. because not only would he be moving from his parents but to another country. at the moment we agreed i and kids will go to uk in march next yr for a few months, away from the heat here....then come back maybe beg of august.....then the follwing year i will leave maybe in june and go and settle there and he will come then. i agree with his points about looking after ur parents. but im right too. but how can i use the 1living seperatlycard as a trump card...yes islam says so too, but i dont even read namaz so who am i to use islam here huh.
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Start reading namaz!
well my husband has agreed to move back, in 2 years. he wants to spend some time with his parents. he is right. their his parents. and i agreed when he asked me this before marriage. but if mother and wife dont get along, then best solutuion is to move. he sees that but i feel he would be unhappy. because not only would he be moving from his parents but to another country. at the moment we agreed i and kids will go to uk in march next yr for a few months, away from the heat here....then come back maybe beg of august.....then the follwing year i will leave maybe in june and go and settle there and he will come then. i agree with his points about looking after ur parents. but im right too. but how can i use the 1living seperatlycard as a trump card...yes islam says so too, but i dont even read namaz so who am i to use islam here huh.
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how will he be able to move away from his parents when they are older and likely to need his support more?
doesn't sound logical or realistic unless there is someone else to move in with them.....