so the **** hit the fan, ....

[Deeba1234]

Re: so the **** hit the fan, …

@Demesne

If you did not realise this, then you don’t have a fair idea of what is expected in a nursing home. You should have known what you were signing up for. Nursing encompasses all of those things. A nurse or a caregiver in a nursing home knows that cleaning bedpans and wiping tushies are part of the deal.

Not every kaamwali signs up for washing people’s undies. It is not the standard of behavior in the east. The STANDARD is what is socially and generally acceptable. In the kaamwali association (if there is such a thing), washing undies would be looked down upon. In a muslim country where such things are

A) ignored in general ie topics pertaining to sex and sexual relations
B) considered “unclean” ie menstrual blood , bodily fluids making a person na-paak for namaz

It is understood that you do not foist these personal items over to someone else. You act responsibly and do it yourself

I thought that the **DIY concept was fairly common in the west? **Why then, do you claim that:

And lastly, when in Rome. Nadz is no longer in the west. She needs to get with the program if she wants a happier, less troublesome life.

Ok, I wasn’t going to go into details as I didn’t want Nadz’ thread to get de-railed.. Firstly I was NOT employed as a nurse or caregiver (I have mentioned plenty of times on GS I went to uni to study law), it was simply part-time work for the summer as my dad was friends with the owner. I’m not so stupid that I don’t know that nursing involves doing that sort of work but just to make it clear my dad simply mentioned to his friend ‘Deeba has a lot of time on her hands at the moment, she could help out’.. In that situation I had assumed it would be doing ‘normal’ things like tidying up, cleaning, helping prepare meals so no, not dealing with these other situations so prehaps you should also think before making such assumptions about me.. You DON’T have to be a nurse to bathe or take ppl to the toilet and a ‘nursing home’ is not a hospital..

I simply pointed out the cultural differences in how these things are viewed.. Yes, we do MOST things ourselves, not sure why you’re jumping on this one thing (just because you find it ‘disgusting’?) and you mentioned Nadz’ doesn’t do housework or cook or clean when I’m sure she has mentioned she has.. Yes, Nadz made a mistake in that she should have realised it’s not common in Pak but as she has been born + brought up in the west it’s not that much of a stretch to believe it wasn’t intentional.. In any case it’s not the big deal that you’re making it out to be and certainly didn’t warrant her MIL making an issue..** A quiet word in private would have been better..**

Yes, when in Rome and all that (tho let’s face it it’s a LOT more applicable to desis moving to Pak rather than those coming to the west in terms of dress, lifestyle etc) people need time to make adjustments.. A bit more understanding on her mil’s part would be nice..