Re: so the **** hit the fan, …
When it comes to this one thing…isn’t it harder in the UK & US? Overwhelming mothers here can not afford to hire maids to do their daily cleaning. Majority of the women here (desi and non-desi) do not have their MIL living with them and doing all the cooking. Every time I go a grocery store, I see mom’s all around me with 1/2/3/ small kids with them.
Your mother did it all alone with 4 kids…and I assume that wasn’t her choice (ie. its not like she chose not to have kaamwali’s do all the housework). If Nadz’s MIL got rid of the kaamwali tomorrow and refused to hire another one…I’m sure Nadz will figure out a way to make sure she and her kids have clean clothes. When the option of getting help goes away…somehow we all manage to do everything that needs to get done.
Again, by no means am I saying that raising 2 small children isn’t hard. But I find it difficult to believe that Nadz has absolutely 0 time to do ANYTHING else in the house except take care of the kids. If I remember correctly her MIL doesn’t expect her to do any cooking or cleaning around the house. She also wrote another thread that she’s stuck in the house all day so buying groceries is also out. We’re talking about her washing her underwear here. Not cooking a meal for 100 people.