so the **** hit the fan, ....

Demilitarize · September 5, 2012, 8:28pm

Re: so the **** hit the fan, …

In that situation I had assumed it would be doing ‘normal’ things like tidying up, cleaning, helping prepare meals so no, not dealing with these other situations so prehaps you should also think before making such assumptions about me.. You DON’T have to be a nurse to bathe or take ppl to the toilet and a ‘nursing home’ is not a hospital..

I am sorry I don’t follow your life and posts closely so yeah I have no idea you are a law student or what. You said you worked in a nursing home, I said (and I am sure someone else also stated after your post) that it is part and parcel of a nursing home. And since I am a doctor, I know the difference between a nursing home and a hospital (just in case you don’t follow my life and posts)

I simply pointed out the cultural differences in how these things are viewed.. Yes, we do MOST things ourselves, not sure why you’re jumping on this one thing (just because you find it ‘disgusting’?)
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Yes I do find it “disgusting” when able bodied folk cannot find the time to wash their underwear themselves and hand them over to someone else to wash. If you aren’t aged, or infirm, or somehow unable to do it yourself, this particular task should be done yourself. You would not ask someone to regularly come and wipe your behind after you go to the washroom would you? That involves cleaning possible bodily residue as well. Noone has issues wiping their own behind. People would have issues wiping others’.
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and you mentioned Nadz’ doesn’t do housework or cook or clean when I’m sure she has mentioned she has..
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Nadz’s posts are so famous in life1 that we all know (since she mentioned) that Nadz does NOT do housework or cook or clean.
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Yes, Nadz made a mistake in that she should have realised it’s not common in Pak but as she has been born + brought up in the west it’s not that much of a stretch to believe it wasn’t intentional.. In any case it’s not the big deal that you’re making it out to be and certainly didn’t warrant her MIL making an issue..** A quiet word in private would have been better..

MIL had the quiet word before as well. Sure if we want to speak of what should have been better, let us consider that the undies Nadz takes off never get dirty and come off scented with flowers and shimmery clean. Real life: Nadz’s MIL WILL make a scene. And undies need washing post wear.
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Yes, when in Rome and all that (tho let’s face it it’s a LOT more applicable to desis moving to Pak rather than those coming to the west in terms of dress, lifestyle etc) people need time to make adjustments.. A bit more understanding on her mil’s part would be nice..
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Two years, two kids and marriage into the family and moving to your own country and being raised well by your pakistani parents, such a person should not require so much of an adjustment period for her own sake. **

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