SO & parents coming over to meet the family

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Re: SO & parents coming over to meet the family

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There’s nothing to worry about. They’re coming to your house, which means your father is open to the rishta.

Just keep expectations and the “who is supposed to do what” talk to a minimum. Every couple/family doesn’t need to follow the same formula. Listen to each other and come up with a fair compromise.

I’m with you on not wanting to separate the nikkah and ruksati. It would be different if you were living far apart or need to do it for paperwork reasons, but if you’re going to see each other regularly and will have the nikkah, adding unnecessary restrictions to your relationships will cause all sorts of silly issues. I’d do what Sehrysh recommended. Do the nikkah/ruksati early and with as much celebration as you’d like and can manage given the short time. Then, when schedules allow, have another reception in the US and have a mehndi party the night before it if you want.

Thank you, you’re making me feel better. =) I’ll let you all know how it goes. Keep us in your duas.