Wanting privacy and freedom doesn't mean you're self-centered. Do you think all these americans and other "western" folks who live seperately from their parents are self centered and your fellow desi brethren arent?
What is being discussed is the expectation for grandparents to be able to baby sit the kids so the confused desi girls can have 9-5 jobs mixed with frequent shopping trips to the mall and the socializing.
Obviously you are an expert on how to treat your parents. So do advise, should all desi families adopt the western model and throw these old folks in old houses?