Re: So much for bashing…
Just to make it clear the Islamic perspective on living with inlaws, I came across this whilst looking up something else:
‘Studies show that parental and in-laws intervention have a devastating affect on a marriage. In-law problems rank 1st or 2nd as problems both in newly wed and long term marriages. Advice is one thing; actively intervening in the affairs of the new family is another. And active intervention is totally wrong! If you live in a two floor house, then one floor should be for you and the other should be for your mother in law. I have seen in some houses where the parents live upstairs and the newly wed live downstairs and have their own kitchen. If you live in a two floor house and they can not be divided for whatever reasons, then at least, you should have your own kitchen if possible. A scholar says that all the fires in the house start from the cooking stove. Isn’t it so annoying when you want to prepare something for your husband and the mother in law comes and says that no don’t do it this way but do it that way? Or the sister in law comes and starts meddling?.. SIGH….. Sister……. I feel for you. If you live in an apartment, and the problem still persists then it should be explained to your husband that he should kindly send her mother to stay with her other sons for a number of months. I have seen that happen where the parents stay at the various children’s houses.’
Source: Mother in law: Demanding & interfering she wants to know all the intimate detail
Also see: http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=11&ID=7128&CATE=121
And yet some ppl strangely keep pushing the idea that living out of hubby’s bedroom in the inlaws house even at the beginning of marriage is somehow desirable in Islam..