I’d like to know what it is that some men find so appealing in dreaming about being with a different woman every so often. Are not all women pretty much the same in terms of what they have to offer physically? I am talking about men that go from one woman to the next, casually. Know some people personally that are like this, but I dont have the guts to ask them directly. What is it that is so appealing about this? To each his own and they are entitled to think and do as they please, but I dont understand the whole concept. Doesnt it get boring after awhile? Is it seen as a challenge? Something to boast about perhaps? I have no idea, would just like some insight. Thank you.
Edit: Do you feel that most men think like this but dont say it? If so, do you believe they were created this way, but were told to control themselves? Can that be used as a valid “excuse” to continue this behavior? What about women?
What i v heard is that they find it more exciting, and there s less responsibility cuz its usually a one night stand.
And I also want to point out, that in the western world the ladies do the same
I know alot of guys from uni, but also alot of girls who go out, just to 'get' some.
It used to be men, but just like gay marriages arent that taboo anymore, it s also alot of women that do the same like men
Munni, women get as much attracted to men as do men to women. There is no difference. Women just don't openly admit it. And, no, not every person is same physically. Infatuation, attraction does not rely on physicality alone.
Have you ever started reading a book and after a few pages you realize that its the worst book you have ever read?.. what do you do... continue reading it or find another one...?
...or maybe the book decided it didn't want to be read by you, and jumps outta the window. Well, thats more like it (replace 'book' with a 'magazine' and you are all set). :~)
The intent of this thread was not to state that there arent women out there who do this, nor was it to state that all men do this. It was to ask your opinion on WHY you think some men (or women) do this. The underlying factor. As well as why this behavior is continued.
Is it accurate to say that all men/women would be like this if it wasnt for laws we have made in society, or those that come from religion. Reason succumbs to primal instincts? If this is the case, is that to say that man is not responsible for his behavior? Man should conform to societal or religious standards? The women who say that men think with their anatomy as opposed to their brain, are they essentially blaming "God" for how man is? If they are, why do they get upset when men do this? Because they should conform?
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Have you ever started reading a book and after a few pages you realize that its the worst book you have ever read?.. what do you do... continue reading it or find another one...?
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Are you comparing us to books? Well then why don't you **** one!
Question is Why those who only love ONE woman or are Monogymous WHY SO
Why if we DON’Twant to eat same food every day, wear same clothes every day or vacation in the same place every year Why HOW do we resist the natural tendencty to seek fresher look younger age after evey 5 years or different race woman /men after some time ?
Someone responding to either question is fine. But what you get from another human being, you cant get from any vacation, or any food. A meal lasts only a few minutes...a vacation only a month...a good partner...a lifetime and beyond.
Polygamy & multiple partners is just as natural animal basic INSTINCT as mothering in woman ,variety is the spice of life & change in scenerey at every summer vacation is preferable .
BUT
For stability loyalty trust & security sanctity of family lifr Monogymous relation ship is healthy because
1/ you can take care of your children without any doubt of parentage
2/ two parents is better than one or single parent
3/ women exchange sexual economical & physical security by bending backwards to provide or atlest try level best to please her husband who hopefully can live with that rather than seeking or acting on his more base impulses.
So IT IS BAD TO BE LOOKING AROUND or altleast AFTER YOU ARE HAPPILY MARRIED & have kids :k: :k: :k:
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Polygamy & multiple partners is just as natural animal basic INSTINCT as mothering in woman ,variety is the spice of life & change in scenerey at every summer vacation is preferable .
BUT
3/ women exchange sexual economical & physical security by bending backwards to provide or atlest try level best to please her husband who hopefully can live with that rather than seeking or acting on his more base impulses.
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So you feel its nature that has made man this way? Then why do you feel man should be punished when acting upon his desires(either when married or even when he is single and having multiple partners)?
Also, are you sugesting that women only get married for economical and security reasons?
What did you mean by "his" more base impulses? So you are saying women dont have these same impulses and urges?
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Munni you dont fall for the first desire or inmpulse that you have
That is why there is DISCIPLINE :soldier:
All trianing involves discipline …training to be soldier ,dancer ,sportsman artists musician … :bhangra:
Discipline is taking the Tougher harder less pleasurable sacrificing ways
As they say in aerobics exercise no Pain no gians .If you want fitness you have to ENDURE otherwise just please yourself with eating what you want & sitting around lazily .
Men though having basic desire of multiple partner
… for the sake of respectabiliy nobility & honor dont act on them in effect disciplining themselves by sacrifice for attaining that status of honorable nobel man .For a vagabond awara loafer its no hesitation if oppertunity present for he doesnt aspire to higher than his basic instinctand would act on his impulses & instincts like animals
Women afik is more children oriented.They get married at 20 be n mother of 2 by 25 & almost completed her life cyle biologically whereas as NOW men at 25 arestill not ready for marriage .For men it is the pleaure more of a inducement that dra him to women For women it is desire to become MOTHER ideally that she hopes for .There are few exceptions in both sexes but from animal behaviour female species is concerned with sex for babies & babies for mothering .
In fact some animals the female attempt to get male to stay and rear the child TOGETHER & as bonus offer sex as an inducenment to male to stay …
Security both physical (as in Animal ) & economical as in human is a very pragmatic goal
What do you think ???
Women sexuality is defenitely NOT like men.Even though women do want & enjoy sex you dont see woman raping men under any circumstances.Theyare never impulsuve as men nor so urgent deperate or immediate needfull like men .Thererfore women can postpone sex for long time somewhere hidden that you may get the impression that it isnt there .
So IT IS BAD TO BE LOOKING AROUND or altleast AFTER YOU ARE HAPPILY MARRIED & have kids
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So NB, are u saying that u condone "looking around" if u r unhappily married or have no kids?
I don't think that logic is right. If one can't abide by the rules of marriage, which include loyalty and fidelity at what one may perceive to be the cost of his/her own "happiness", one shouldn't get married.
This is a fallacious argument. It is totally subjective that men have a “basic desire to have multiple partners”, and varies from man to man. Not all are made from the same grain. There are many have no desire at all to be with even one partner, and a good number that want and desire ONLY one.
Men are not so stupid (for lack of better word) to think of honor and respectability if they are not in control of their body. But there are many men, who even though may follow natural urges, it is only for one person and not dus hazaar.
Exact same thing goes for women. Women however, due to societal restrictions, kill their emotions and are able to master and manipulate their bodies. That’s probably why they are much more sensitive and emotional as well, because the process of self-control requires eliminating many natural desires.. and the person breaks down often.
3/ women exchange sexual economical & physical security by bending backwards to provide or atlest try level best to please her husband
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And I think that is total rubbish. So r u saying if a man becomes unemployed a woman will ditch him or stop "exchanging" things with him? Woman have the capacity to give and give my dear, without asking for or expecting anything in return.
A woman is oriented towards motherhood because she has been so conditioned. It is her rearing since childhood that makes her this way.. pliable. Besides, some one has got to do the job!
Men can be just as effectively made to tune-out their manhood and succumb to changing nappies as women can be made to tune-out their feminity and run a large corporation. It's all in the head.
Basic natural instinct is a bodily curse. Everything else is psychological.
