My parents broke my rishta off on my say-so. It just wasnt working out between us and we didnt see eye to eye on a number of things especially career and children. Plus his family were very traditional and we arent. We used to get along so well but the arguments have started getting worse and really crude. I just made the decision that I cant live with someone who is so controlling and unwilling to compromise.
I feel like Ive been hit by a bus because he was such a nice person and I feel like I gave him alot of grief which I will be punished for. It's just sad that it didnt work out and I keep getting upset about it. I know time is a great healer but the wound is too big right now.
I feel like there is no one else out there but my parents keep reassuring me that there will be many. Although we argued so much, there were many times when we we understood each other very well.
So, no wedding in July and no move to Canada (which I was really looking forward to) :'(
Has anyone else been through this? Were you able to find someone better?Did you ever look back and say "I made the right decision?" because right now I feel like I didn't.
Something similar happened with me recently, my parents and I broke off my rishta as well. My parents had their concerns and I had mine but liek you I feel guilty as well towards the guy, since he was really nice but honestly when i think about it we have different goals in life so it would have been very difficult to adjust. Plus I would have had to move to Pakistan and going back after 10 years would be have very tough.
I feel like I hurt someone than how can I expect to be happy in life and find someone else. I think that Allah will punish me for doing this but then my parents reassure that if this happened its because whatever happens its because Allah meant for it to happen.
It was hard to make the decision because a part of me thought I could make it work and I should go with the flow but a part me didn't want to because I had dreams and goals of my own. I felt I had to give too much up and sacrifice literally my identity so choose to brake it off and follow my dreams. I still sometimes get upset cause I worry things wont go as I want them to as far as my career and education but I made a decision and I must move on.
I hope and pray to Allah that our future will be bright and we can achieve success and happiness and not be punished for this decision.