So I was surfing GS

[Reha]

@PyariCgudia

What is Godh barai?

Pak-one: do you guys reject rishtas based on the tribe, though? I thought that was common in western Pakistan too.

Shak, you make sense. Snowmen

PCG…its a rasm that is mainly in the Indian culture where the girl’s GODH is actually filled with things from her Maika (mom’s side of the family).

@Shak09

Something Reha finds 1000% weird.

What IS Godh Barai?

A sympathetic:rotfl:

Yes, I do. Have you ever seen one happening?

@soundarya

I’ve never seen a godh bharai rasm being done by pakistanis

PCG- I guess you can say that a godh bharai is like a baby shower but has some rituals. I think I’ve seen it in Indian movies, but never seen it being performed by Pakistanis… but I wouldn’t be surprised if it is practiced.

I have soundarya. The thing is, if its something Pakistanis do as a rule or is part of our culture…I get it and may even be fine with it. But its odd to see Muslims doing things that they dont really know the meaning of or believe in either.

@soundarya

^ maybe it is originally a tribal thing. that’s what i thought it was when i found out my “zaat” two years ago from my cousins. i thought it was interesting at first because it gives an idea of what the ancestors were like, what they used to do, where they came from. but then i found out it’s treated as a caste system in pakistan with ******syeds/shaikhs ******at the top. maybe it’s not as extreme as the hindu caste system because it’s ok for an arain to talk to a jatt/shaikh/etc. or eat with them. there’s no banishment or exclusion. but i find it strange how people ask about caste, that has nothing to do with marriage.

Exactly. Ive seen it become an issue with certain people. I know folks who will not marry a non-Syed. Larki chahey kaisi bhi ho…Syed honi chahiye hai. What does being Syed have to do with marriage? We are Syed and I dont know if my parents have ever even asked anyone so far that has married into our family what their caste is. Its never mattered.

@PunjabiRose

I do too Reha.

For those that don’t know what it is:

<<It is a ceremony that celebrates the first pregnancy of the bride of the house and is held in the seventh month of pregnancy. On this day, the prospective mother is dressed in almost bridal finery. It is important that her mother present all the garments that she wears at the ceremony. The ceremony is strictly for women only. Consequently, there are only women invitees. All the women will be dressed in traditional finery and will sing traditional songs appropriate for the occasion.

The women who participate in the ceremony from the side of the mother of the expectant mother will bring five colourfully decorated metal thalis (round plates). Of these five thalis, three thalis will contain assorted Indian sweets. The fourth thali will contain a range of garments and jewellery. The fifth thali will be filled with a coconut >>

It is totally freaking weird that Pakistani’s have this ceremony… but just another indication that we can’t get get rid of of the hindi traditions and customs from our past. And sure.. its not like every family has this ceremony… but its just another example of a hindu thing (such as the importance of zaat) that is still being practiced but us Muslims.

Where do they get the idea that its okay?

There was one I went to where the mom had the whole almost bridal thing going on, sitting on a jhoola, etc.

@PunjabiRose

I totally disagree… **Pakistani people certainly do think they are better than others if they belong to a certain tribe. ** And those that care about it, do look down upon those that are not of the same zaat as them … mabey not to the extent as they will not become friends with you or work with you or eat with you … but to the extent they dont want a person of that “zaat” to marry into your family.

Pakistan as a country hasn’t even been around for 100 years… it was all India for like centuries… its not that hard to believe that something that was practiced and is practiced heavily in India is still having effect in today’s Pakistan for this reason.

I hate to say this but we do generally think of ourselves as better than others and that ego is puffed up even more when a caste is involved. Its sad but its true.