TLK…she cannot be required. She can be requested just like a man can be requested to do something nice. She can be encouraged. But her MIL/FIL are not her responsibility. THey are their son’s responsibility. Just like her parents are her and her family’s responsibility, so are his.
THe second part, I agree with 1000%.
This is also true. These days larkiyan milna koi mushkil kaam nahin hai to larki ki value kam hogayi hai.
Taking care of my elders is a great thing but it cannot be forced on me which most of the time it is. I should be asked and not told because it isnt my job to slave after them. When typical Pakistani inlaws bring home a bahu, they dont do it because unko apne betay ko khush dekhna hai…they do it because unko apne aap ko khush karna hai. Vo larki shauhar ke liye baad mein aati hai, pehle susraal valon ke liye.
Like I said, she can demand all of the above if she is being required to take care of his family like its an order. No, its not an order. It never was and never will be. Its not her obligation. She should do it if her husband asks her to make him happy and keep the peace but there should also be some amount of appreciation there because had he been doing that for her…Im sure appreciation would have been demanded.
In our society and culture…a guy’s parents matter more than a girl’s. Deny all you want but its the truth. Ive rarely seen thraeds here on a girl’s family being opened because they are somehow required to magically take care of themselves…but a guy’s parents? No way…they worked so much harder to take care of a male-child…they need all the khidmat they can get. If a guy takes care of his inlaws…ohmigosh what a sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeetheart! But if a girl does the same…yeah so? Every girl does it. What else is new?
Tolerance is great thing, but from both sides. And ye baatein kehne aur sunne mein bohot achi lagti hein ke sab ke saat pyar aur muhabbat karke raho aur buray ke saat buri mat bano, etc. But how long do you think a girl will be able to handle it before it starts to grate on her nerves and she begins to resent society, inlaws and her husband? Its not long before those girls become the bitter old auntiyan that we all hate so much.