So i broke up

[Reha]

@icicle1

I dont know if you guys remember this…but approximately ten months ago i posted on this forum because i was getting engaged and i wanted some opinions on making the decision.
Anyhow, long story short…i broke it off about 1.5 months ago. It didnt work .
The parents of the guy were nice and my parents were happy and i used to like the guy too. **But i felt i got too clingy after the engagement and every little thing used to bother me. I was miserable. I was afraid of it ending at any point. Thing is I didnt really see him during this time of the engagement. I tried, he avoided it and then i just gave up. **

Anyhow..i’m not happy right now and i’m really sad and i feel like i’ll never find anyone while his life’s full of girls..(that was part of the reason i broke it off). There were other reasons too. Every day is SO TOUGH. its the same recurring thoughts that i cant get rid of.
I need some guidance on how to move on basically… or if anyone can share their experiences of a broken engagement/heart/ anything and how they coped, moved on and then found someone else. That might be a bit uplifting. Thanks.

I am sad though..really sad. :-/

@Jaanwar

^ I thought I was, given that she broke it off for such trivial, and rather stupid reasons.

I dont think her reasons were trivial or stupid at all Jaanwar. If you knew your relationship was turning sour with your other half…you would still keep moving forward with the engagement? You would marry her? With so much doubt looming over such a relationship AND pressure…it takes a lot to walk away.

@redvelvet

She admits to her faults (being clingy, letting every little thing bother her, etc) But then she also says that she didn’t see much of him…and when she tried, he avoided her. Now it could be that his avoidance was a result of her behavior. As far as him having female friends…we don’t know how those interactions were. She says there were “other reasons too”…and we don’t know what those are. We don’t have all the information. Anyhow, hopefully they’ll both find some peace.

Being overly friendly with females will irritate any woman. The sanest of women will start to lose it if her fiance doesnt know how to maintain distance.

These are major signs…these characteristics get triggered when we are in unhealthy relationships that arent good for us. A relationship that was solid and healthy wouldnt bring these attributes out in someone…but one that isnt really meant for her…WILL.

@Jaanwar

I am sorry if I sound judgmental, but in the light of the given information I would think she is quite immature and somewhat ill-advised. I believe the guy must have a job? Got engaged and had a million thoughts on his mind? Paying for the wedding, perhaps saving some money for future, keeping the job going in this current slow economy and maybe preparing for the upcoming changes and responsibilities. So perhaps he couldn’t treat our lady here like a princess and stay at her disposal.

I say ban Walt Disney.

Jay, if I felt like I was getting too clingy or jealous or every little thing was bothering me about my fiance…I would seriously evaluate my relationship and see if I was even in the right place. Should I be with a guy I am so suspicious of? Should I be with a man I cannot trust? What does he do that makes me not want to believe him? And why is it that he brings out the worst in me?

Dont you think instead of putting herself in a place where she would not only hurt him but also hurt herself…she did the right thing by breaking it off?