So i broke up

Lifestyle Relationships
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Re: So i broke up

You are brave to make a decision like that, I am sure you must have consulted a wisehead(hopefully your or his parents before calling it off) if you really want to get over this guy make sure you pray hard, pray to allah for the guidence and help to go through this phase. The only thing for sure in your situation is that it is not going to be easy and will take time.

Try not avoiding the fact that you have to deal with it and not hide/run away from this mess. If you just keep your self 'busy' and run around like a chicken withot head, there might be times when you get a brief break from your busy day and then end of it feel so empty that nothing will make you feel better. It is all part of breaking up just be brave, and please if you made a mature decision to let go than being clinggy and have other issues, please face and don't regret.

I know I know it is easy to advice but trust me it is better not to be in a bad realtionship than in a relationship at all. Sorry for being too raw but this is life and good thing is that there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

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I dont think her reasons were trivial or stupid at all Jaanwar. If you knew your relationship was turning sour with your other half...you would still keep moving forward with the engagement? You would marry her? With so much doubt looming over such a relationship AND pressure...it takes a lot to walk away.

Being overly friendly with females will irritate any woman. The sanest of women will start to lose it if her fiance doesnt know how to maintain distance.

These are major signs...these characteristics get triggered when we are in unhealthy relationships that arent good for us. A relationship that was solid and healthy wouldnt bring these attributes out in someone...but one that isnt really meant for her...WILL.

Jay, if I felt like I was getting too clingy or jealous or every little thing was bothering me about my fiance....I would seriously evaluate my relationship and see if I was even in the right place. Should I be with a guy I am so suspicious of? Should I be with a man I cannot trust? What does he do that makes me not want to believe him? And why is it that he brings out the worst in me?

Dont you think instead of putting herself in a place where she would not only hurt him but also hurt herself...she did the right thing by breaking it off?

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So you are available again? ;)

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Reha, I never said that being clingy and getting worked up over every little thing was healthy. I agree with you that they're off putting. I brought up these points to show that the OP has an idea of where she went wrong in the relationships. The "other things" we don't know about....we don't have all the details.

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check ur pm

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Why are we examining her terminated relationship and trying to determine who’s at fault, when she is simply asking for advice on how to get on with her life.

Shame on all the posters that put this poor girl down.

She admitted her faults, of course she didn’t publicly announce her life story on this forum, because she is not looking at the past, she is trying to move forward.

Think about what you say before you say it, especially if your statement is negative.

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Interesting isn't it that you quote mainly the men. Usually the logical aspect of the species? :D

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don't worry too much, you are just being a woman.

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Don't bother.....you are just being a monkey.

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Redness.

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monk paa jee ki bistiiii :p

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If it wasnt meant to be, it wont be,everything happens for a reason.

everything takes time, you wont heal in day, whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger, and remember, if you made a good decision, thats good, if you made a bad decision, its a mistakes, and people always learn from them.

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koi baat naheen

its redness :blush:

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PPL HAVE A HEART
listen icicle, i know how you feel and i completely stand with you 100 percent. you probably saw some things in which you did foreshadowed it would not work in the future. these things may not play such a significance now but after marraige they really count. first of i am very proud of you, you did a very good thing. When things just dont feel right, you must do a change. No one can feel what you are feeling now, but believe me it will get better
listen, it can only go up from here TRUST ME
i myself had a rishta of a doctor and agreed to do it bc he seemed like the whole package. he had looks, personality, bright future. After getting to know him, i found some habits i did not like, there were things that i just could not mold myself in getting used to. I broke it off with him and it was a shock to my parents, they were like you will never get a better rishta than this etc..
i was quite discouraged but i learned from that experience and i want to pass that knowledge to you, when a door closes, 100 open up
after some time i got over it, yea it was hard but time passes and it makes things better. time is a ultimate healing my darling.
i got a rishta who was 10 times better than this guy MashAllah** my fiance prayes 5 times, hes sweet to my parents and super sweet to me, he cares about me so much, hes finishing up his residency in the next 2 years. MashAllah im blessed and now my parents tell me i mad a right descion. Please dont go back to him, you will regret it. Allah has a better plan for you !!
PM me if you need anything!

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:hehe:

:smack:

:shoaby:

:smilestar:

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oh yeah??

look at this now.

:hehe:

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Sorry I didnt sit down and analyze the sex of the posters. I quoted all the negative post I found, but thank you for sitting down and determining this useless fact. I have no use for this information, but I can think of a few things you can use it for... ;)

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I read it wrong the first time :eek:

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No information is useless, it is only limited by the ability and intellectual capacity of the person using it. :)

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