Re: So,How to proceed…?
So,I am a 20-something working girl,whose baat got pakki-fied 3 weeks back to a guy,like 2 yrs older to me..well,He is the only son of his parents.I n my parents liked the family..They liked ours.n baat got pakkified within 2 weeks time.#1: .my parents are REALLY Conservative in this matter;They say that They have met the guy and family,n have taken the best decision fr me n I need to shake all fears and not doubt unneccessarily.#2:The guy himself hasn’t communicated or expressed that he wants to meet or talk…so Isnt it inappropraite fr me to try to initiate the talk…if at all I want to do.??#3:I dnt feel any sort of sentiments as regards my spouse-to-be n how possibly I can have..?or is it too early to expect this?#4:Almost all of my friends show amazement that how have I committed without even meeting/talking once and it makes me feel so miserable that I have stopped breaking the news of my engagement to ppl now!!cuz What they say next is that How’s the guy n when I say that I havent met him,They are like…??
You’re allowed to see him and even talk to him according to Islam.
So ask your parents about it, you can talk to your mother.
One other perspective is that seems like you don’t trust your parents decisions. Which means if you were given the power to see future and choose your parents when you were born you wouldn’t have chosen these parents knowing the fact they’ll do this to you when it comes to marriage.