So,How to proceed...?

[MustafaQuraishi]

Re: So,How to proceed…?

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So,I am a 20-something working girl,whose baat got pakki-fied 3 weeks back to a guy,like 2 yrs older to me..well,He is the only son of his parents.I n my parents liked the family..They liked ours.n baat got pakkified within 2 weeks time.
As regards me n the guy,we have just seen each others’ pics,not in actual.
Now the plan is Nikah is about a month’s time.
I’m kind of panicked.I want to meet the guy at least once or twice before the Nikkah,But:
#1:.my parents are REALLY Conservative in this matter;They say that They have met the guy and family,n have taken the best decision fr me n I need to shake all fears and not doubt unneccessarily.
#2:The guy himself hasn’t communicated or expressed that he wants to meet or talk…so Isnt it inappropraite fr me to try to initiate the talk…if at all I want to do.??
#3:I dnt feel any sort of sentiments as regards my spouse-to-be n how possibly I can have..?or is it too early to expect this?
#4:Almost all of my friends show amazement that how have I committed without even meeting/talking once and it makes me feel so miserable that I have stopped breaking the news of my engagement to ppl now!!cuz What they say next is that How’s the guy n when I say that I havent met him,They are like…??
Sounds complex,doesnt it??

Question: So you now want to meet the guy after your baat is PAKKIFIED … what if after meeting you don’t like the guy ? How are you planning to tackle the situation. Is there an option to say NO after the BAAT HAS BEEN PAKKIFIED ?

If the answer is YES .. then you should have done it before the baat is pakkified, regardles … you should convince your parents

If the answer is NO .. then why are you stressing that much ? It wouldn’t matter what kind a person is he when you aren’t going to say NO .. .. so why are you trying to take a step which will plant more doubts in your thoughts. Just go with the flow the way you were earlier when the BAAT WAS PAKKIFIED