He was already angry in the.morning that the maid didn’t iron his trousers properly and he keeps telling me.to do it instead. He came.home was OK but quiet. Then he didn’t like the curry I.made. he said its been really bad cooking for a while. I was rude maybe that he was insulting my food so I said well.don’t it then.
Then I went downstairs to say OK never mind I’ll make.something else. But he was really angry at me said I was really rude and that I can’t Cook.
This got me angry again so we had a row I think I said he doesnt earn anything ( not enough) .
At night he was really angry and told me to sleep elsewhere I said no. He then took the pillow and duvet and chucked onflooor in front of my 4 year old and tried to drag me off the bed by pulling my arms and grabbing ad pulling my hair. I began crying. So he backed off.but still arrogant and said somthing sarcastic.
He then watched TV for hours on loud and read namaz.I wanted to make comment about his.audacity to read namaz but I didn’t.
What do I do.
This is extremely outbof the ordinary for him. I’m scared and worried.plus I don’t. Even think he cares right now.
I'm not great at giving advice but I did just pray for you. If your husband is really angry about something, then try your best to stay quiet and not say anything to further aggravate him. Wait for him to cool off and try to find the real reasons for him being this upset which like you said is unusual for him. You MUST be the bigger person in a fight in order to avoid letting things get ugly. Hang in there, my prayers are with you but also do your best to not get into a mess. hugs
I'm not great at giving advice but I did just pray for you. If your husband is really angry about something, then try your best to stay quiet and not say anything to further aggravate him. Wait for him to cool off and try to find the real reasons for him being this upset which like you said is unusual for him. You MUST be the bigger person in a fight in order to avoid letting things get ugly. Hang in there, my prayers are with you but also do your best to not get into a mess. hugs
The same advice should be given to her husband. They also should seek councelling. Certain things aren't meant to be said and done in quarrels between spouses.
There are certain lines you don't cross, otherwise things will just escalate.
I must also add, that kid (her husband) needs to grow up.
Stories like these make you wanna thank God for singlehood.
Anyway, I have heard that if there is disunity between family members then they should all recite "Ya Muqeet" (Allah's name) often. Or after reciting blow on something to eat or drink and all the family members should eat/drink from it. That binds them together and creates love between them. Try it, maybe it will work because you seem to be fighting like kids.
He was already angry in the.morning that the maid didn't iron his trousers properly and he keeps telling me.to do it instead. He came.home was OK but quiet. Then he didn't like the curry I.made. he said its been really bad cooking for a while. I was rude maybe that he was insulting my food so I said well.don't it then.
Then I went downstairs to say OK never mind I'll make.something else. But he was really angry at me said I was really rude and that I can't Cook.
This got me angry again so we had a row I think I said he doesnt earn anything ( not enough) .
At night he was really angry and told me to sleep elsewhere I said no. He then took the pillow and duvet and chucked onflooor in front of my 4 year old and tried to drag me off the bed by pulling my arms and grabbing ad pulling my hair. I began crying. So he backed off.but still arrogant and said somthing sarcastic.
He then watched TV for hours on loud and read namaz.I wanted to make comment about his.audacity to read namaz but I didn't.
What do I do.
This is extremely outbof the ordinary for him. I'm scared and worried.plus I don't. Even think he cares right now.
When your husband comes home after work, exhausted, it's NOT okay to make sarcastic comments to him or say things like "don't eat it then." And telling him he doesn't earn enough? Seriously? That is a great way to damage his ego. From your previous threads, I understand you don't get on with your MIL so do try to keep the peace with your husband or you will end up feeling very lonely, stuck in a country you don't want to be in. If your husband arrives home from work in a bad mood, do not push his buttons and do not irritate him. If he says something to upset u, ignore it and move on.
Also, is it not possible to hire a cook so you don't have to do the cooking?
As for the dragging you bit, I sincerely hope this was a one off for him. Anyway forget it and move on if you want to keep your marriage intact.
Wow, what a douche. If he didn't like how his trouser was ironed he could have done it himself instead of sulking and taking pent up anger on you. And didn't he just came from Hajj? Fights happen and people annoy the heck out of you sometime but hitting your wife is whole new low ....no excuse for it regardless how your behavior was. Also why the hell did he ask you to sleep somewhere else ? If he was that much bothered by you, he could have taken a pillow and moved on to the couch himself.
Means you let things get to that point. The responsibility is in both people's hands. Especially when doing this in front of a cold m she saw him hit you sure but also saw and sees you talk badly with him
you should text him the tagline of Umera Ahmed ‘Saare mard ik se hote hain… aur muhabbat takleef seh leti hai tazleel nahin’ to make him realise that this is not done.
There's no excuse for a man hitting a guy... but then there is no excuse for a woman to constantly nag, nag, nag and wind him up, a guy will put up with it up to a certain point, and then will just explode, again, I say there is no excuse to hit a woman
But us women don't look at our own behaviour, on how we actually keep adding to the pressure cooker, and then will put the guy down with he explodes.
You complain about your MIL, but you yourself are a **** daughter in law, you are too immature to handle a husband, a marriage or in laws - sorry to be harsh, but I read your posts, and you're always complaining about other people
Hey folks, don't blame the victim of abuse. That is completely inappropriate and the root cause of a lot of the problems in our society.
He should not have hit you or dragged you or whatever. Do you need help making it clear to him to never do it again? Is this a situation you want to continue? Can you work with him to improve it? What do you want, nadz?
One of you need to swallow the pride and anger during this patch. One of you will have to take the initiative of doing this instead of waiting for the other.
No other solution. This way, after a while he will begin to realize his own follies and calm down and have greater respect and love ..and money for our :P
You know what, you guys blame the guy, I get that, there is no excuse - He needs anger management, but Nadz needs ant-nagging/moaning/complaining counseling......... have any of you guys read her previous posts??
