So he hit me.....advise now.

nadz123 · August 17, 2011, 9:33pm

Re: So he hit me…advise now.

Peace nadz123

Here is some sincere advice because I think that is what you looking for here … Perhaps you are only trying to vent your frustrations here and you will go back to the same old routines … If you want to be happy then making a change is as important as making a positive change … You need to start being smart … You need to help your husband look for a job and no longer hamper him about getting a job … but instead help him find one … You have access to the net and hence a computer you can do lots for him in this capacity … I understand that you have a child and another on the way … Talk to him … talk him about your plans for your kids and get him involved in those plans … women are so good at getting their way simply by talking to their husbands … so you need to start to use this technique …

Agree with your husband and let your in-laws find out that Once a week you go out together make that a routine - people get used to routine … Before going out do something for your saas that will make her happy this will minimise the chances of her being upset when you return back …

Create a position for yourself in the family structure that is more than “just the bahoo” - you need to be given some authority to deal with some affairs. You will not be treated like a child and no one will sympathise for you like they sympathise for their own daughters - so step up to the mark - if they treat you like a soldier then become a soldier and manage them - make them respect you through your maturity and don’t rely on them to baby you … Become prepared to handle stuff and make your husband do things … they won’t complain because you will be running the show … slowly … it is vital that it is slow and undetectable you need to develop your sphere of influence in to the friends of your hubby’s family and neighbours etc … never push around the sister-in-law that will be a bad move … always treat her kindly and train her with genuine love - busy yourself in her things and help her out often she will fall in love with you … use your English as a weapon for “raub” and position yourself to become the mouthpiece of the family …

Good Luck !!!

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