Re: So he hit me…advise now.
ok update-
well i did speak to mum. what happened 2 days back, was that usually i spend money that is in our draw in our room, he doesnt mind or expect me to tell him what im buying, thats one good thing about him. ok but cos he was angry about our fight he told me not to touch his money and spend my own…i kept quiet but after hed gone i foned mum and told her all about it. she made me think and asked me to think carefully about what happened because even she said kay woh to aisa nahi hai, something mustve happened…anyway so if even my own mum was saying it i had to think. and what i think he did was slapped my back…it wasnt as hard as it cudve been, it didnt hurt after. i follwed that by putting my hands around his neck and hitting him, as women do, and ripped off his buttons. and he sat down and i ran off to tell his mum.
ok so when i told this to my mum she said i sounded worse than him and although he shudnt have done anything at all to provoke me we were both in the wrong. i then spoke to him because i know he wouldnt speak to me for a long time. firstly he wouldnt talk, or even look at me, the more i tried to talk to him the more i saw him soften abit.
so we had a talk, and i told him u dnt respect me, he said u dnt resxpect me, so weve made a pact to statrt changing abit. he said he will. although i did make ALL the moves he just kinda agreed. he then hugged me, was nice. but im still feeling like although its solved for the time being, he may not change in the long term.
today i had a stomach ache i cried he came to me, i then vomited all over him. think i ate something funny. he did look after me. we seemed better today almost normal.
but the real underlying issue still seems to be there. i still think hel go back to his usual self.
there is one thing thats bothgering me is that when he was angry he did say we are not moving back to uk i dnt care now and i dnt want to either blah blah…he sounded serious. and im now troubled. he said a wife should stay where her husband is, wherever he is. and we are staying in pak.
im hoping, praying he only said it in anger. im not sure now. i dnt kno what to do, still i feel lost. his mum just ppppppes me off, shes a meethi choorri and im sure shes brainwashing him slowly…
Feel sorry for the poor guy. He was about to get rid of his troubles but now you are back again
Okay on a serious note, i think YOU have no intention of changing. What do you contribute to his life other than giving birth to his kids and you expect him to lead his life to please you. I have a relative with very similar situation, his wife keeps provoking him about every single thing, when he cannot take it any longer and decides to leave her, she starts making excuses and seeking forgiveness. Every 3-4 months this drama goes on.
