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'Abba/Amma jee can I please send a txt to my fiance asking her how she's doing?'
Seriously, people who are engaged, the ones that are in their mid to late 20s dont need any permission from their parents to talk to someone, be it their own fiance. It's just stupid.
Exactly.
Re: SMS relationship with fiancé
'Abba/Amma jee can I please send a txt to my fiance asking her how she's doing?'
Seriously, people who are engaged, the ones that are in their mid to late 20s dont need any permission from their parents to talk to someone, be it their own fiance. It's just stupid.
i dont know about others but for myself i will surely ask my parents...not that before every text or call i'll ask "kar loon phone ya text?" but in general i will surely ask them how much contact should i make with my fiancée? is talking everyday via phone/text ok or should u think it should me limited?....and then i will proceed how ever they say it.
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^ Shadi aap kar rahi hain yah ammi jee?
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i dont know about others but for myself i will surely ask my parents...not that before every text or call i'll ask "kar loon phone ya text?" but in general i will surely ask them how much contact should i make with my fiancée? is talking everyday via phone/text ok or should u think it should me limited?....and then i will proceed how ever they say it.
well, you should know your limits before your parents do. Yes you MUST keep in mind what they prefer but if it helps you live your future life in a better way then probably have some sort of limited interaction.
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^ Shadi aap kar rahi hain yah ammi jee?
main but for me my parents decision matters more than my own.
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well, you should know your limits before your parents do. Yes you MUST keep in mind what they prefer but if it helps you live your future life in a better way then probably have some sort of limited interaction.
yup
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'Abba/Amma jee can I please send a txt to my fiance asking her how she's doing?'
Seriously, people who are engaged, the ones that are in their mid to late 20s dont need any permission from their parents to talk to someone, be it their own fiance. It's just stupid.
Han jee I was proud of my sister for seeking my parents' approval first before engaging in SMS/Online talk with her fiancé.
And she isn't in her mid to late 20's so does that justify it a little bit?
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It's not about justification or being proud of someone. Everyone ought have the freedom and opportunity to be 'ATLEAST' be able to make some very essential simple decisions such as communicating with their potential significant others without seeking parents permission. I dont know if its an age thing, but most men and women in their 20s, 30s are well established, confident and sensible enough without having their parents sign consent/approval forms they used to get in school when they were in kindergarten.
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And what's the issue if they do?
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And what's the issue if they do?
None...extra courtesy for parents....which is very positive thing to do nowadays..
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If I had a 20-30 year old child of mine coming to me for permission to take a leak, I'd call myself a draconian parent... I'd even name myself abba-hitler if that happens.
The issue is simple, raise your kids and instill enough confidence and freedom in them to make these little decisions themselves. That will make them successful in life, be it marriage, career or raising their own kids.
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Taking a leak is a little tiny bit different than pursuing a relationship mere bhai. I'm not here forcing anyone to seek permission from their parents about anything. My cousins go on "icecream dates" with their fiancés all the time, without their parents knowing about it. I couldn't care less. But there is nothing wrong with my inexperienced little sister seeking my parents' advice at whatever age!
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just read a few of the posts, spock is on the money.
BBC u sucketh.
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K I’ll show my parents a finger tomorrow morning instead of asking them if it’s ok for me to leave town next week. Am I cool now? 
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Nothing wrong with asking your parents when you first start talking. You don't need permission every single time you talk but maybe somehow imply you're talking over the phone/texting when you first do so they know. It's just a little more comforting and shows courtesy IMO.
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lol so first it was permission approval and now its advice 
Gotta love this place, full of insecurities and incoherence…
asking for advice and asking for permission are two different things… anyways, there’s no point in arguing, what you and your sister do is da bomb, what everyone else does or thinks is pointless…
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wonderful analysis, spock.
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You dont have to jump to the extreme end to forcibly prove your point…
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If I had a 20-30 year old child of mine coming to me for permission to take a leak, I'd call myself a draconian parent... I'd even name myself abba-hitler if that happens.
You dont have to jump to the extreme end to forcibly prove your point...
Egjactly. :@:
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Egjactly. :@:
So how do the two posts I made conflict? Believing you are a strict parent is not an example of presenting an extreme example like you did because no one asked you to flip your parents off (showing the finger bit) just to somehow prove your point. It's like someone stating the disadvantages of overeating, and BBQ comes and tells us 'omg but ill die if i dont eat anything'...
The problem with desis on GS, everyone thinks whatever their parents, or siblings do is the right thing. Nothing else can dare be right.