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Reality?
umm......the real person behind the phone?? and how difficult it is in the beginning to 'live' with another person....and handle the issues involved...and so on and so forth...
And what you said easily happens in arranged marriages too.
I am just explaining the 'fiance romance' phase........
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the real person behind the phone?? and how difficult it is in the beginning to 'live' with another person....and handle the issues involved...and so on and so forth...
What if its face to face webcam?
I get what you're saying but sometimes when its the above or when its he sheer amount of hours people talk then it becomes immaterial.
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I didn’t mean how they look 
…i meant how the person actually behaves and lives…
well…the cases i have seen in real life…(and heard about from others)… there was ‘LOTS’ of communication…for LONG period of time…and what i said…did happen…but that might be my personal experience…there is obviously a possibillty of that not happening…but that is ‘rare’ i would say…
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Disclaimer: I am not releasing fatwas against those who talk to their fiancé! 
My parents discourage dating but are perfecty cool with texting/chatting within reason. My sister and her fiancé both know their boundaries and their relationship is just a masoom sa beautiful one. They’re at ease with each other and really good friends now. Though she shares everything with me, I know if she couldn’t talk to me for some reason that she’ll always be able to talk to him and that’s really really comforting to know.
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I agree sometimes expectations are shattered.
But that can happen in ANY marriage. With this atleast a person can predict the others' actions to an extent.
I can see both sides but I'll stand by what I said :D
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Texting is not haraam, it is makrooh. Sexting is halaal and highly recommended. Mufti Maulana Peter North Rehmatullah declared it to be the cornerstone of a healthy relationship.
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^For further guidance on the 'halaal' activity...refer noorclinic.....u get solutions to possible ancilliary issues :@:
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I think what Jay paa jee is really saying is, as long as texting doesn't turn into sexting, it's all cool.... haina?
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I am so proud of you Barbie Streisand. You can make so much sense out of my utter bollocks statements. <3
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yayyy!
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How I love our holier-than-thou culture.
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I think what Jay paa jee is really saying is, as long as texting doesn't turn into sexting, it's all cool.... haina?
What is so wrong with hitting on your fiance? Really?
I mean, don't you think the muslim boys out there need SOMETHING to help them turn into real men? Enough with the arse-wiping and diaper changing, please.
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How I love our holier-than-thou culture.
holier than thou is not culture, its human nature.
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I hate texting 
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What is so wrong with hitting on your fiance? Really?
and then engagement gets over because of a fight and next thing you know, the jerkass guy is posting the scantly clad pictures of his ex-fiance on flickr and putting slide shows on Youtube. The same pictures that she used to hit on him.
as someone said in earlier replies, you have to be careful till the relationship is official (wedding that is)
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@ SMS Relationship
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Mocking BBQ…
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and then engagement gets over because of a fight and next thing you know, the jerkass guy is posting the scantly clad pictures of his ex-fiance on flickr and putting slide shows on Youtube. The same pictures that she used to hit on him.
as someone said in earlier replies, you have to be careful till the relationship is official (wedding that is)
And what would stop him not doing it after a divorce ?
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I think a man would have some respect given that she may be the mother of his children. ^^
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Since an engagement itself is not an Islamic concept hence any post-engagement realtionship would obviously be wrong.
Other than that sms'z are the least reliable way of communication esp when you are getting to know the next person . Things get badly interpreted.
And for the arranged rishtas and engagements, both parties are in the "I judge you on what you say" phase. So it could lead to things being misinterpreted and even at times these little squabbles can end up making a mountain out of a mole hill - damaging for the married life - when you would have to put up with 'tum to aisi thi ..shadi se pehle to tum ne ye kaha tha..shadi se pehle to tum aise kaha kerte thay/thi ..blah blah'