how do you make a smoker who you care very very very deelpy abt quit?
you’ve tried every way.
emotional, logical. u’ve cried and begged the person, many times, u have stopped talking to the person for some time, u didnt eat when ever u found out the person just smoked, u did everything…u have explained it logically. u r depserate and have tried everything u could.
the person knows it really really hurts you.
the person also knows its very harmful for them.
but still keeps smoking and not just little but a lot…
what to do?
its killing you more than that person and they know but they just dont stop smoking
and u’ve tried talking to the person again n again but the person has started lying to u now saying they don’t smoke anymore but u find out from others that they do.
According to one group of Islamic scholars, since anything that endengers human life is prohibbitted; thus, smoking comes under the act of suicide.. wallah-O-Alam biTh Thawab!
One thing you can do is to start eating tobacco before smoking:mudhosh:
waisay eating tobacco means start eating “Tambaakoo wala paan”
Boryaa Bistar sameT kar chalaa jaataa hay
BaRRay Bay Aaburu ho kar teray koochay say humm niklay:teary3:
PS:
Jaan jalaanay say maslay hall nahiN hotay…there are things you can do .. there are words that do the tricks at times … humans are given EMOTIONS.. remember them;)? PLAY THEM;)
well there is only so much a person can do for others to make them realise what is right and what is not. if this person in question is not listening to you then taking up smoking urself is not going to help either of you. this person is already not willing to quit , but seeing you smoking will give this person more courage to keep on smoking. so in my opinion, leave this person alone. let him/her be the way they want to be and live. like i said, there is only so much you can do and you have done that. so don't take it so hard on yourself.
All you can do is just let them know that you care about them, and you want to see them live for a very long time, that they are hurting themselves and the people around them by smoking. There isn't much else a person can do to help another quit, they have to do it on their own through will power.
first of all, we know you respect him a lot but stop addressing him as "them"/"they" ...he is just a person, afterall :) and no, i am not making fun of you but this is very important...u have to first come up to the same level as him before you are able to effectively help him.
let me jot down a few points that i think can be helpful to quit smoking:
If you are very special to him, cut your photograph to the size of pack of cigerattes and simply put it in the pack...this way it would remind him not to smoke whenever he feels like doing so.
In addition, get him to use some alternatives like nicotine patches or gums. These are also helpful to suppress the cigerette cravings.
Another thing that can be helpful is that you DO NOT always mention him not to smoke...if he is smoking, let him smoke but do not talk to him, and make him realise that you are upset 'cuz of his habbit.
The whole point is to create an urge within himself to think about it, and decide not to smoke anymore. otherwise no matter what you do, he wouldnt be able to quit.
EntityParadigm - I can’t leave that person alone…I can’t let them kill themselves in front of my eyes and not do anything…I can’t till the day I am alive I will still pray and try for this person to quit smoking…if they have to kill themselves in this way then they won’t die alone they might as well kill me too
you know my uncle who was a chain smoker passed away two years ago with cancer…
Fret Wizard - thanks bro. i have done that. and i realise what u r saying. but there has got to be some way that i can build that will power in them to not smoke. i realise the person needs to feel it themselves but i feel like all the motivation and will power in a person’s life comes from their loved ones, werna insaan akela toh khud kuch bhee na karay, so i feel like there must be some way i can give rise to that determination in that person’s mind…whenever i feel like i lack motivation in life those i love r always there to give it to me..if i am not there to do it for this person then i feel like i am not doing all i can…
lahoeria bhai - aisi baat naheen hae woh mein them is lyay keh rahi hoon ke i dont want to disclose here if its a he or she…and how do u know if its a he? it could be a she isnt it…
u have given some excellent suggestions. thanks so much. i will try those inshallah. i hope inshallah they work, if not in stopping them atleast reducing for now and i will keep working at it inshallah
Irem, I’ve been through that exact same thing. I don’t really have any advice for you, but I thought maybe you would feel better knowing that you’re not alone. I used to do exactly those things to make a person stop smoking…then…one time they practically slapped me for it…for caring for them! So then I just let it go…But I hope the person you’re trying to stop, comes to their senses soon, InshaAllah. Just keep trying. :k:
woh mein them is lyay keh rahi hoon ke i dont want to disclose here if its a he or she…and how do u know if its a he? it could be a she isnt it… 