There are umpteen topics on religious and cultural differences. Most of the time Pakistani guys go out with Hindu girls but never marry them. They bring a virgin from back home. Given this circumstance, the emotional situation is little different for someone I know.
One of my Hindu neighbor had been seeing a Pakistani guy for the past 5 years. She is now 22. By now she knows that the relationship will not develop into marriage because he always avoids the topic. He is 25.
She maintains that she too is kinda not looking forward to marry him anymore, especially because she realized that he does not want to committed to her. However, instead of getting all emotional and sit back and cry, she believe that she will just play with him for as long as he wants to but she just won’t tell him.
I think it’s good for her. She is brave!
She knows of her other firends in similar situation and that’s why she has braved up emotionally. While she is willing to marry someone of her own cast, she will not tell him anything about it either. What do you guys think? Will this affect the guy’s ego in anyway that she is willing to move on without notifying him officially? she says there is no need to since all Pakistani guys do the same. They go to Pakistan and cry an emotional river saying they were majboor because their mom forced them to.
What would be the Pakistani guys reaction? Positive? Negative? Will he move on without ego crush?
She should hope that he's not the vindictive type who will go postal and show up on her parents' or new husband's doorstep to tell them how loose, etc., she is.
She is not a smart girl, she is just a gal with two faces and you seem quite inspired with this quality of hers :)
no no I am not inspired.
How can you call her two faced. The guy in her life is about to that with her, and her friends also have experienced this. So how can she be called two faced when she is just taking some sort of escape route to marry another, yet continue the affair just the way her guy would do too.
I am just saying that this is the first time I am hearing that the girl is taking this steps.
She should hope that he's not the vindictive type who will go postal and show up on her parents' or new husband's doorstep to tell them how loose, etc., she is.
true - lol
but then these things happens to girls all the times. There are no psychos that follow the guys home and tell on his wife...
If the guy did that - wouldn't you want to consider the guy a loose character too?
Plus she wants to F him as long as she could. Not thinking about her future husband.
Very typical desi girl's mentality.
She does not know her future husband. It will be arranged so there is no question of love at this time. She is a girl of today generation who would not want to sit back crying. So if she wants to still be with the other guy then ....?
If the guy did that - wouldn't you want to consider the guy a loose character too?
(lol - just a thought)
Of course! But you know most people's preoccupation with virginity/chastity only applies to females, unfortunately. Seems like for every 'loose' girl, you'll find two 'experienced' guys, but everyone finds the girls so much more offensive.
Flip side of the argument. I know at least 4-5 pak-indian couples who knew from the very beginning that they will not be able to marry each other. But they still lived/stayed together.
Anyone of them use to call 'roti' a 'chochi' ... NO .
I think it was only about some easy and no-strings-attached 'Zex' .
^ okay but that is a different situation. They BOTH knew about it and just stayed in relationship for "z*x"...
but the situation here is that the girl will play it out like all Paki boyz do. She will not tell him about marriage, and then one day she knows HE IS GOING TO DISAPPEAR anyways - so she wants to keep mum till then.
