if a girl drinks, its jus as bad as if a guy drinks from religious point of view but i wud expect parents to be more strict with the girl. u know y,,not bcz of religion or bcz its more wrong but bcz of different consequences for girls n guys of the same actions(sex, drinking, staying out till late etc) n associated societal pressures n consequences.
I think Shaz1 has made a fair point here.
Yes, is it more acceptable in our culture for men to have skeletons in their closet than women, unfortunantely
..And I think it is because the consequences are different for each gender that makes it so... I'm not agreeing or condoning men who have shaded pasts, but I think Aunti-jees are more "accepting" of these guys than they should be.
It's wrong and these Aunti-jees need to wake up and smell the coffee. If these Aunti-jees knew that a prospetive daughter in law would refuse a Rishta on the basis of skeletons in the closet, then I believe they would be less accepting of their sons sordid behaviours leading to shaded pasts..
It's down to the parents to teach their children, regardless of sex, right from wrong. Isn't that what raising an Islamic family is all about? It sure as hell isn't about allowing the sons to do whatever they want and then letting Allah punish them for it.