At the risk of turning this into a 9-page thread, I’m curious where are you getting that from? OP and everyone else including has not said a word about divorce. S/He asked specifically what should s/he do in this situation. We are sharing our outrage and/or lack thereof on being misled in this situation - with an endnote that this isn’t necessarily divorce-worthy but that it is still quite significant and shouldn’t be swept under the rug.