Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? The condition of not allowing your husband to take a second wife. Islam allows a woman to stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract to prevent her husband from taking a second wife..would you?
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
No.. I wouldn't bother.. but that's mostly because I think the chances of it happening to me are low (I hope!)
If I lived in a society where it was more common or if the guy had hinted or mentioned it I'd personally say no to the proposal full-stop or make it clear beforehand I would divorce if he took that step (which is my right anyway).. Islamically you can to stipulate it in the contract but at the end of the day if my husband didn't think I was 'enough' for him I'd prefer to just leave the marriage (the thought of him being with me whilst dreaming of her would be too much for me to handle).. Everyone is different tho, if a woman wants to put it in her nikah contract that's fair enough..
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
If a person wanted to marry a second time why would u want to be with them anyways?! Just opt out.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
^Love (hope he might change or want you more one day?), emotional or financial dependency, kids, social pressure..
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? [Women answer
No.. I wouldn't bother.. but that's mostly because I think the chances of it happening to me are low (I hope!)
If I lived in a society where it was more common or if the guy had hinted or mentioned it I'd personally say no to the proposal full-stop or make it clear beforehand I would divorce if he took that step (which is my right anyway).. Islamically you can to stipulate it in the contract but at the end of the day if my husband didn't think I was 'enough' for him I'd prefer to just leave the marriage (the thought of him being with me whilst dreaming of her would be too much for me to handle).. Everyone is different tho, if a woman wants to put it in her nikah contract that's fair enough..
Agree
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
No, I wouldn't
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
Er if he was to marry a second wife why would the first one want to stay married anyway?
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? [Women answer
Er if he was to marry a second wife why would the first one want to stay married anyway?
as deeba said above
^Love (hope he might change or want you more one day?), emotional or financial dependency, kids, social pressure..
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
Farah, no matter what you get written in the contract , eventually if a man wants to get going with a second wife , he will .. So really the option that any woman is left with is to opt out of the marriage if/when that happens.
A friend of mine wanted this and a few other conditions in the nikah contract and guess what the molvi had taken the liberty of crossing out stuff at his own free will !!! when she created an issue , family pressure kicked in to remain quiet and let the wedding proceed ..
If you have the choice to add this clause in your contract and you feel strongly about this matter, then please do so . There is nothing stopping you. Nikah is a two way contract, never a one way , i dunno why molvi’s and parents in Pakistan forget that 
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
I'm not sure if I would go and insist that it be in writing in the contract....b/c personally I believe this is a personal matter between the couple. But I would make it very clear to him that I will not accept a 3rd person into our relationship. Under no circumstances would I be ok with him being sexually active with another woman. Whether he calls that woman his wife/girlfriend/mistress...whatever.....her "title" doesn't make any difference to me.
Having fantasies about others is one thing.... but the minute he decides that he wants to go ahead and actually be intimate with another woman....I consider that moment to be the end of our marriage.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
Why would you want a contractual agreement for him not to have a second marriage?
If this is a huge concern for you and you wouldn't entertain a situation like that, maybe you should rethink in who you want marry.
Marry someone who thinks you are the one and only for him, and him for you.
Like other posters said if he wants to do it, regardless of the stipulation he will do it.
He may not marry just have an adulterous affair!
This is the most important decision of your life, really mull it over till your satisfied.
Good luck!
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? [Women answer
That’s why I’m going to make sure that only I and he gets to see the nikkah nama before anything gets signed. If I have to obtain a copy from the masjid myself, I’ll do it. This is ridiculous. The molvi isn’t getting married himself. Two people he will never ever meet again are. Who gave him the right to take away a woman’s right from her? All he has to say is “kabool hai?” and even then he’s not needed. Ridiculous 
Anyways, to the other ladies that are saying no we won’t marry such a guy, or I will make sure we get to talk beforehand etc, this is assuming you have the chance to sit with the guy and talk to him before hand and he will not lie to your face etc etc. Let’s not assume that everyone has that liberty to do that, even if you’re sitting in a western country. As a Muslim woman, I am granted that right. It says there right on the nikkahnama. I have to just check the box. Even if I know 200% that he will never ever do such a thing, why would I not exercise that right? It’s not because I would not trust me it’s because if he gets to check the other boxes about my obligations to him, then I have the equal right to do so. That’s where I stand on this issue. I’m sure that others don’t agree with me.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
No but I'd put a condition that I get foot rubs every night.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
Ok question to women here. If this country sees second marriage as illegal why r u women worried that your husband will take another wife. Even if he does, this won't be accepted in West anyway. I mean if he takes another wife, divorce him and move on. Y putting all that marriage stipulation etc. etc. at first place?.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? [Women answer
Ok question to women here. If this country sees second marriage as illegal why r u women worried that your husband will take another wife. Even if he does, this won't be accepted in West anyway. I mean if he takes another wife, divorce him and move on. Y putting all that marriage stipulation etc. etc. at first place?.
They can do the nikah only so the marriage isn't registered but still Islamically married..
There's a story in the papers today about a guy who murdered wife no.2 here in the UK.. VERY extreme case but yeah, it's possible to have more than one wife..
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
Men who marry twice knowing their first wife isn’t happy with it…have no idea what they’re getting into and usually don’t go for bivi # 3 for a reason 
In all seriousness, why bother with the contract? Get married…apne aap doosri bivi ka bhoot utar jayega.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
LOL Reha , thats so true actually !
For those who are question why someone would want this second wife clause in a nikkah contract. I know a good few people now who have said almost the same thing at different times .. sharing that with you now :
If you are getting married into a family that has a high trend of second marriage or divorce , think carefully at the time of Nikkah. Usually in families like these taking a second wife or divorce are not seen as gravely serious as it seems to the rest of us. Hence purely for your own benefit there is no harm in using your right and putting in certain conditions in the nikkah contract. It reiterates in clear terms a wife's expectations of her husband from the very beginning.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
Just a thought, is there a clause for men too which can make his wife bound to him forever?
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? Women answer
Fairy , I dont think so.
Re: Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? [Women answer
Sisters, would you stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract? The condition of not allowing your husband to take a second wife. Islam allows a woman to stipulate this condition in the Nikah contract to prevent her husband from taking a second wife..would you?
I've heard of this for the first time but if there was an option like this, then most definitely would.